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Mismated For Money (Men And Women Who Date Others For Financial Reasons)

June 22, 2016

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Life can get complicated sometimes. People work to earn a living, but sometimes it is not enough to live the lifestyle they want. People think about financial security and sometimes it leads to poor choices. Sometimes people sacrifice love for money.

Most think women are the only ones who do this, regarding dating and or marrying a man for his money, while not being in love with him. However, there are men who date and or marry women they do not love nor are they attracted to, but go through with it because the woman has a good job or is wealthy and can provide financial security.

It is not right to deceive someone into thinking you are in love with them or love them, when you are only with them for money. You should want more for yourself than that. Nothing beats being in love. It’s great.

However, getting into a loveless relationship or marriage is not worth it, as it will break your heart and you will come to the cold, emotionally painful realization that money can’t buy love or happiness.

Remember, God knows your heart and true intent – and life can take some strange, unexpected turns. Do not go around using people. It will come back to you. Do not sacrifice your happiness, well-being and future with someone you do not love.

I know people this has happened to, who seriously regret dating/marrying someone for their money.

Furthermore, God expects you to marry those in the faith. It is a principle Christians adhere to (Jews and Muslims do as well regarding their respective religions). The Bible says, “Be not mismated with unbelievers.” Yet some Christians are doing this to disastrous results, all because the person is attractive, famous and or wealthy. You’re supposed to date and eventually marry a fellow believer (Christian) you are in love with, of any race, whether they are rich or poor, famous or not.

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WOMEN DATING OR MARRYING FOR MONEY

In one case, a person I know was in love with a guy who didn’t have any money. She adored him though. However, he was broke and that was a problem in her eyes. A man who had just made a million dollars started pursuing her, so she dumped the broke guy.

She went out with the guy that had just made the million dollars, then she married him, though she did not love him. Not long after things began to go terribly wrong. She went through a lot of emotional pain and disappointment and he ended up broke due to career problems and bad investments. It ended in a painful and acrimonious divorce. He realized she did not love him and even fathered children with someone else during the marriage. To make matters worse, the man she had actually loved who was broke, got his act together and became a medical professional who makes a big salary.

Some of you need to learn to work with the people you love, who may not have much now, but you can grow together. Money isn’t everything. Love is more important.

MEN DATING OR MARRYING FOR MONEY

Another case I know of, regarding a man who makes a decent salary, but does not think it will be enough to live the middle class or wealthy lifestyle he wants for the rest of his days, in trying to emulate his millionaire boss. So, he (a believer) sacrificed love by dating a woman (an atheist) he does not love and is not attracted to, whom everyone in his life thinks is wrong for him.

He is quite good looking, where people do not use that term in reference to her (I don’t want to be mean). When they go out, people stare at them like the odd couple for this reason, as he is good looking and that’s not her strong point. He is also well built. In reverse, it is the equivalent of what people call an average looking guy going out with a gorgeous woman – people stare and wonder how it happened and what’s going on (looking at the gorgeous woman wondering if the guy is holding her hostage or something LOL).

People openly wonder what they are doing dating each other. She likes the fact that he is good looking but people are looking at them for the wrong reasons. As stated above, people are wondering and commenting on why they are dating, due to the difference in looks. I don’t like writing about people’s looks, because at the end of the day, we are born looking how we look, beautiful or not and had no input on the matter. However, society looks at these things.

She is also hoping to use him to make money, as he has potential, but to be dating someone he is not attracted to, placing money first, he is showing he does not have enough confidence in himself and his earning ability. She is not rich, but has a fairly decent paying job. She has used her job skills and helped him make money. She also pays for things and at times has given him money. This is how she got him to go out with her in the first place, because as stated above, he is not in love with her nor is he attracted to her and his friends know this.

His friends know he is using her. His friends do not approve of the relationship. His parents worry he is sacrificing his own happiness over money in dating someone they know he does not love nor is he in love with her in any measure.

She, so desperate to cling to this good looking man, has turned it into hero worship complimenting everything he does, right or wrong, which is insincere and dangerous, as at times it leads to him making choices that are not in his best interest. His friends have witnessed this as well. People need others in their lives who tell them the truth for their own good.

He and the woman should have been business associates/friends at most, not lovers. However, to encourage her to continue to help him and to thank her for helping him make a bit of money, he started taking her out and having sex with her, leading her on, which is highly inappropriate, misleading and unethical.

So, this man has been dating this woman for money. However, her job/career is in jeopardy and he is going to promptly leave her when he figures it out, as money is the only reason he is dating her. To complicate matters, after dating her for a while, he started to cheat on her.  To complicate matters even more, recently he fell in love with a woman he met online who is similar to him, as they have a lot in common. However, he wrongly thinks she is broke and wants the modest sum of money he has in the bank. Little does he know she has more assets and money in trust than he and his girlfriend combined. She just pretends to be broke (LOL).

The moral of the story is do not date or marry people for money. It will backfire. It is better to choose a poor person you love than a rich one you do not, because you will end up miserable if you make the choice based on financial security (not to mention, money can go overnight, it’s happened to many).

People also get used to and sometimes grow tired of money, failing to see it as they once did, but you never grow tired of truly being in love. It doesn’t matter what color or country the person you love comes from, but choose them because you love them…not their money.

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What Kind Of Man Has Sex With His Best Friend’s Girl

 August 31, 2015

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What type of man has sex with his best friend’s girl? A cruel one who should have listened to his conscience and not done it. A famous man in his twenties had sex with one of his best friends’ girlfriend. His best friend is even planning on marrying this woman, who betrayed him in this manner, but he doesn’t know about it yet.

The athlete’s on and off again girlfriend, who doesn’t love him but has sex with the star for money, gifts and to show off to people online and in person, is also best friends with this girl that her famous on and off again boyfriend had sex with behind everyone’s back. They both betrayed their friends by having sex with each other, in something that was so unnecessary.

The friend shouldn’t be surprised though, as he has watched in disappointment as the famous man cheated on his girlfriend with many women he even openly flirted with online, thinking it makes him look like a macho man, when it has only served to make him look very bad to his fans and former female admirers, who thought he was decent.

At the encouragement of some of his other friends, who are promiscuous and live vicariously through him, the famous athlete is on social networking behaving like an absolute dog in heat and it has turned off many women who were once fans.

It has also given potential advertisers great pause. In trying to prove he is a stud to men online without morals, he has cost himself a lot of money as potential endorsers who make big deals with celebrities took one look at his social networking pages and decided they did not want him fronting their family oriented brands.

His extraordinary lack of self-restraint is not only costing him many fans who have ethics, but a fortune in money he would have made from endorsements. This is ironic as the athlete doesn’t have that much funds to begin with and could legitimately go broke in the not too distant future.

I feel bad for the athlete’s friend, as he really loves this woman, who has so betrayed him. They’ve made a fool of this poor guy, who has been there for both of them through some of the toughest times in their lives.

The guy brags about her on social networking all the time and has told many people he is going to marry her (and vice versa) yet she betrayed him with the athlete that he’s known and supported like a brother for years. Their families all know each other as well. Their parents are going to be devastated at the betrayal.

It’s not everything in life that you can do that you should do. When some opportunities present themselves, you should have the decency and moral fiber to say no, as it is a hurtful betrayal of others and can cause innocent people lasting pain.

Some of the famous athlete’s friends are partly to blame for what has happened. They encourage him to behave like a dog with women who talk to him solely because he is famous. These women do not care about him and he does not care about them, but he has sex with them anyway, putting his health and others at risk.

His friends, who need to grow up and stop being leeches, brag about his sexual promiscuity on social networking, offending his fans and it has run away so many decent women from the athlete, who once thought he was good, but now label him a dog.

His friends encourage him to party when he should be training or resting. They know nothing about sports or career management, but due to their affiliation with the famous athlete, think they now know it all when they are not responsible for his success (God, the athlete, his manager, coach/trainer and business people are responsible for his success).

His friends have him out partying and drinking on the weekends in something that is going to breed failure in his career and destroy his persona life and health. An athlete training during the weekdays and partying on the weekends will damage his body, career and bank account. That’s a negative cycle being repeated week after week and taking its toll.

His friends use his name to get into parties and various venues. They name drop him to get women to have sex with them who are trying to get close to the athlete, not them. Any woman who would have sex with the friend of an athlete to get near the athlete to date said star needs to get new priorities in life.

His mother did not raise the athlete to behave like this and is not properly apprised of her son’s destructive behavior, but under the influence of a few friends, he has flown off the rails, getting into bad habits endangering all he has worked for in life.

The irony is if he got into trouble or his career fails, these same so-called friends would quickly abandon him. Yet he is risking everything under their bad advice and goading.

Now the main friend in their circle, who has been announcing how he plans to marry his girlfriend, has been betrayed by this behavior, as the athlete has had sex with one of his best friends’ fiancée, in something that never should have happened.

They wanted to see what it would be like to be with each other and let lust get the better of them. These two friends should have never sexually known each other, as it betrayed the people they have dated for years and truthfully, they do not belong together. They are incompatible. As the phrase goes, “With friends like these, who needs enemies.”

I keep thinking to myself, they couldn’t have said no to sex with each other for the sake of the poor guy, who actually loves this woman that he made known his intentions to marry. And said woman, who by all accounts is really in love with her fiancé, could have just said no to the athlete, who has known her fiancé for so many years.

Of all the women he could have picked, couldn’t he have just chosen not to have sex with his best friend’s woman. Some people are off limits. It is such a betrayal of a good friend, who trusted them both.

In another incident, said athlete has been flirting with and eying up another friend’s wife and people are noticing and are not amused. It’s not a good look. The friend is a married father and the athlete is lustfully staring at his wife in behavior that is completely disrespectful and wrong.

Said star needs to get a hold of himself, as his behavior has gone too far. And that friend is the type who would kill him in a rage over his wife (though it is something the site does not support or recommend, as violence is wrong).

When you start making such poor choices in life, it’s time to look in the mirror and ask yourself exactly why you have fallen to such lows and what you need to do to stop said downward spiral into depravity, before you destroy yourself or someone else. It’s time to change your behavior, as you are on a collision course with disaster.

People too often allow fame to cloud their judgment and they do things that destroys lives. God gives everyone a conscience and when you ignore it to engage in destructive behavior there are consequences in life.

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Have You Raised A Heartbreaker?

November 30, 2014

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Michael Jackson’s famous megahit “Billie Jean” has a true lyric that states “Mama always told me be careful what you do/Don’t go around breaking young girls hearts.” It was good advice.

Are you raising a heartbreaker? Have you raised a heartbreaker and sent him or her out into the world causing others heartache? Parents aren’t always responsible for their children’s behavior, but there should be a conscious effort to teach them to be mindful of others’ feelings.

Some use the term “heartbreaker” as something to brag about, but it’s not. It’s someone who hurts their significant other and or people they recklessly lead on in thinking a relationship is more than what it actually is for them, in order to get what they want – namely sex or money.

Some men encourage their sons to be promiscuous, misleading them into thinking it is a sign of virility and makes them a real man. However, a real man does not behave like a cad. A real man loves one woman, not more than one at a time. A real man doesn’t string women along, tell them what they want to hear to get sex, then leave. Furthermore, being a heartbreaker can destroy your sexual health (sexually transmitted diseases) or cost you the one you love when the person finds out you’ve been cheating.

Some women encourage their daughters to play the field to find the richest man possible. They end up raising daughters, who exploit their bodies for money, becoming modern day harlots and Jezebels. They wreak havoc on themselves and people’s relationships and marriages, chasing money not meant to be their own, under dishonest circumstances. Do not deceive someone into thinking you love them, when you’re after their money. That type of money will do you no good in life.

Do not play with people’s feelings. Do not string people along. Do not give people false hope.  Do not use people for sex. If you are not sincere about the person, don’t start anything with them.

You see it all the time, regarding people developing feelings and become attached, only to discover it was just about sex or money and not love, then they end up heartbroken and devastated for believing a lie.

Encourage your children to find true love. In that is the blessing. Anything less is a travesty.

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Destiny And Self-Control

September 30, 2014

In life it is always wise to learn to control yourself. Self-control or lack thereof can change the course of your life for the better or worse. Life is about working hard, enjoying your success, while making smart choices for the betterment of yourself and those around you.

Not everything that happens in life was meant to happen and it is a concept some do not understand. Often times people say or write the phrase “everything happens for a reason” but not everything is God’s plan. God gives us all free will and with it the right to make our own choices. However, choices have consequences and not just for us, those around us as well.

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Many people have damaged their destiny due to lack of self-control. The person who cheats on their significant other and loses the love of their life due to the aforementioned lack of self-control, has altered their destiny (and that of their significant other) with a regrettable choice that broke another person’s heart, not to mention, their own.

Promiscuity is another dangerous choice that destroys people. You see it a lot  in the entertainment industry, where stars sleep around with many people and in the process develop sexual problems, hang ups and dysfunctional behavior that leads them into trouble and sometimes incurable STDs (sexually transmitted diseases).

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Entertainers having sex with woman after woman, sometimes two or more at a time, in what is destructive, ungodly behavior, is emotionally, mentally and physically unhealthy. To those choosing this path, it becomes a lifestyle that brings them and others heartbreak and pain.

The irony is they don’t remember the names of many of their sex partners, but end up losing the love of their life over their rampant promiscuity and cheating, in deeds that are counterproductive and harmful. This creates long lasting heartbreak and regret that is preventable.

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Promiscuous people end up destroying their relationships and marriages, causing themselves and others tremendous emotional pain and suffering.  That is not God’s plan for anyone’s life. Sex was not meant to be abused in this manner. How is God’s blessing supposed to properly flow in your life when you are going around using and discarding sexual partners like meat, breaking people’s hearts and causing them pain. You are doing people wrong. This is not the way to treat people and God sees the tears you cause. Let that lifestyle go. Commit to one person.

The person who gets drunk, goes behind the wheel of a car, then crashes into another person, resulting in serious injury or death to another motorist or civilian, has made a poor choice that was not God’s plan for anyone. In the Bible people drank. That was not the issue. What is frowned upon is getting drunk and with good reason. When one is drunk, one is no longer sober or in control of one’s faculties, making one susceptible to harm and the error of engaging in destructive conduct not beneficial to anyone.

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In this world, women and children have been sexually assaulted and raped. That was not God’s plan either, as the Bible says not to do these things. Much like the good book is against murder, as it deprives another human being of their life and creates early bereavement for their loved ones.

God can forgive these sins if people pray for forgiveness. However, it is best to live an honest, decent life, where you are mindful of your choices and the impact they make on you and others, to minimize damage. Be a blessing to people. Don’t use your free will to set a bad example, break hearts, ruin lives and damage yourself.

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Don’t be reckless with your choices, operating under the mindset of “everything happens for a reason” or “what will be will be” as this thought process can manifest itself as negative, careless choices, damaging your life and others.

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Egypt’s Richest Man Concerned About How New Islamist Government Will Treat Christians

June 30, 2012

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Egypt’s richest man, accomplished business mogul, Naguib Onsi Sawiris, has expressed his concerns regarding how Coptic Christians, such as himself, will be treated under the newly elected Islamist government, the Muslim Brotherhood, headed up by President Mohammed Mursi. Former President, Hosni Mubarak, was toppled under tumultuous circumstances and recently suffered a coma inducing stroke. Egypt is 90% Muslim and 10% Coptic Christian.

Sawiris’ wealth is estimated at $2.5 billion dollars and he chairs the multi-national companies Wind Telecom and Orascom Telecom Holding. Sawiris was quoted as stating, “There are fears of imposing an Islamic state…where Christians don’t have same rights. Morsi is required to prove the opposite …We don’t want speeches or promises, but in the coming period, it is about taking action…He was not our choice but we are accepting it is a democratic choice.”

It is the website’s hope that the people of Egypt will turn a new page and live in unity, after the turmoil that transpired over the past year. Egyptians, like all other global citizens, must dwell and work in peace and safety in their sovereign land. People’s rights must be respected, as this is a universal concept that at times, has been sorely lacking in our world.

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