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All Roads Do Not Lead To God But There Is Hope

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The 19th century painting Transfiguration of Jesus by Carl Bloch

Some people state all roads lead to God. However, that is incorrect. The Bible plainly states of Jesus, who is defined as God “Put no other gods before Me.” The Bible makes clear the only Gods that exist are the Holy Trinity of God the Father,  Son and Holy Spirit.

The Bible makes reference to “gods” that are not real, but forbidden idols people created and mislabled “gods.” It is one of the reasons God forbade His people to intermarry with others of non-Bible religions. God knew that a person in love is sometimes susceptible and swayed by the beliefs or lack thereof of their partner. Some men have turned atheist under the toxic nagging of their faithless girlfriends or wives, who belittled their beliefs, regarding their faith in God. It is a massive sin to destroy someone’s faith in God.

Some men have fallen under the influence of women or friends of other religions who, utilizing peer pressure, sway them away from the Faith and into worshiping “idols” some falsely proclaim are “god.” The Bible forbids this, as a massive sin. It is very wrong to turn away from the true God of the Bible. Let no one convince you to do so.

God (Jesus) makes it clear, His blessing is over His people who believe in Him and those who depart from the faith lose the blessings and favor of God. I implore you to return to the true Gods of the Bible – God the Father, God the Son (Jesus) and God the Holy Spirit. Your blessings in this life and your soul in the next life depend on it. Don’t wait until it is too late, as no one is promised tomorrow. However, through faith in God and changing your ways you are guaranteed heaven.

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Having A Hopeful Outlook On The Future

November 30, 2016

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Having a hopeful outlook on the future is essential, especially during times of crisis. It can sustain you through tough times and encourage you to reach that next level during good times. Success in your personal and professional life can go a long way towards your happiness. No one is promised tomorrow and one should not be presumptuous, but thank God for life everyday and hope for a better tomorrow.

Being optimistic about the present and the future is always better than being a pessimist. Stress and depression are not good for the mind and body. Let go of the stress. People need to learn to laugh more. Fearing the worst, which often does not happen, is not good for your health and will rob you of the joy of life. Therefore, enjoy your life and live with hope.

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Mismated For Money (Men And Women Who Date Others For Financial Reasons)

June 22, 2016

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Life can get complicated sometimes. People work to earn a living, but sometimes it is not enough to live the lifestyle they want. People think about financial security and sometimes it leads to poor choices. Sometimes people sacrifice love for money.

Most think women are the only ones who do this, regarding dating and or marrying a man for his money, while not being in love with him. However, there are men who date and or marry women they do not love nor are they attracted to, but go through with it because the woman has a good job or is wealthy and can provide financial security.

It is not right to deceive someone into thinking you are in love with them or love them, when you are only with them for money. You should want more for yourself than that. Nothing beats being in love. It’s great.

However, getting into a loveless relationship or marriage is not worth it, as it will break your heart and you will come to the cold, emotionally painful realization that money can’t buy love or happiness.

Remember, God knows your heart and true intent – and life can take some strange, unexpected turns. Do not go around using people. It will come back to you. Do not sacrifice your happiness, well-being and future with someone you do not love.

I know people this has happened to, who seriously regret dating/marrying someone for their money.

Furthermore, God expects you to marry those in the faith. It is a principle Christians adhere to (Jews and Muslims do as well regarding their respective religions). The Bible says, “Be not mismated with unbelievers.” Yet some Christians are doing this to disastrous results, all because the person is attractive, famous and or wealthy. You’re supposed to date and eventually marry a fellow believer (Christian) you are in love with, of any race, whether they are rich or poor, famous or not.

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WOMEN DATING OR MARRYING FOR MONEY

In one case, a person I know was in love with a guy who didn’t have any money. She adored him though. However, he was broke and that was a problem in her eyes. A man who had just made a million dollars started pursuing her, so she dumped the broke guy.

She went out with the guy that had just made the million dollars, then she married him, though she did not love him. Not long after things began to go terribly wrong. She went through a lot of emotional pain and disappointment and he ended up broke due to career problems and bad investments. It ended in a painful and acrimonious divorce. He realized she did not love him and even fathered children with someone else during the marriage. To make matters worse, the man she had actually loved who was broke, got his act together and became a medical professional who makes a big salary.

Some of you need to learn to work with the people you love, who may not have much now, but you can grow together. Money isn’t everything. Love is more important.

MEN DATING OR MARRYING FOR MONEY

Another case I know of, regarding a man who makes a decent salary, but does not think it will be enough to live the middle class or wealthy lifestyle he wants for the rest of his days, in trying to emulate his millionaire boss. So, he (a believer) sacrificed love by dating a woman (an atheist) he does not love and is not attracted to, whom everyone in his life thinks is wrong for him.

He is quite good looking, where people do not use that term in reference to her (I don’t want to be mean). When they go out, people stare at them like the odd couple for this reason, as he is good looking and that’s not her strong point. He is also well built. In reverse, it is the equivalent of what people call an average looking guy going out with a gorgeous woman – people stare and wonder how it happened and what’s going on (looking at the gorgeous woman wondering if the guy is holding her hostage or something LOL).

People openly wonder what they are doing dating each other. She likes the fact that he is good looking but people are looking at them for the wrong reasons. As stated above, people are wondering and commenting on why they are dating, due to the difference in looks. I don’t like writing about people’s looks, because at the end of the day, we are born looking how we look, beautiful or not and had no input on the matter. However, society looks at these things.

She is also hoping to use him to make money, as he has potential, but to be dating someone he is not attracted to, placing money first, he is showing he does not have enough confidence in himself and his earning ability. She is not rich, but has a fairly decent paying job. She has used her job skills and helped him make money. She also pays for things and at times has given him money. This is how she got him to go out with her in the first place, because as stated above, he is not in love with her nor is he attracted to her and his friends know this.

His friends know he is using her. His friends do not approve of the relationship. His parents worry he is sacrificing his own happiness over money in dating someone they know he does not love nor is he in love with her in any measure.

She, so desperate to cling to this good looking man, has turned it into hero worship complimenting everything he does, right or wrong, which is insincere and dangerous, as at times it leads to him making choices that are not in his best interest. His friends have witnessed this as well. People need others in their lives who tell them the truth for their own good.

He and the woman should have been business associates/friends at most, not lovers. However, to encourage her to continue to help him and to thank her for helping him make a bit of money, he started taking her out and having sex with her, leading her on, which is highly inappropriate, misleading and unethical.

So, this man has been dating this woman for money. However, her job/career is in jeopardy and he is going to promptly leave her when he figures it out, as money is the only reason he is dating her. To complicate matters, after dating her for a while, he started to cheat on her.  To complicate matters even more, recently he fell in love with a woman he met online who is similar to him, as they have a lot in common. However, he wrongly thinks she is broke and wants the modest sum of money he has in the bank. Little does he know she has more assets and money in trust than he and his girlfriend combined. She just pretends to be broke (LOL).

The moral of the story is do not date or marry people for money. It will backfire. It is better to choose a poor person you love than a rich one you do not, because you will end up miserable if you make the choice based on financial security (not to mention, money can go overnight, it’s happened to many).

People also get used to and sometimes grow tired of money, failing to see it as they once did, but you never grow tired of truly being in love. It doesn’t matter what color or country the person you love comes from, but choose them because you love them…not their money.

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Atheists Anger

April 30, 2016

God gives each person free will. This means one can make one’s own choices, which includes whether they want to believe in God. Some atheist rail against and ridicule people for peacefully practicing their religion. It is highly disrespectful and unnecessary. I’ve never understood why some atheists get so worked up, with some becoming sarcastic and ill-tempered towards people who choose to believe in God. Just because someone has a different view from your own does not mean you cannot respect others wishes and be peaceable regarding it.

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Learning To Laugh

February 13, 2016

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Laughter is good for the soul. Not fake, contrived laughter, but the appreciation of genuine humor that creates spontaneous laughs. Learning to laugh in life can do wonders for your outlook and health. It improves your emotional and mental state of mind, promoting wellness. When you are happy, the body releases endorphins.

While trouble will come in life, keep them in perspective. Do not fail to appreciate and hold on to the good in life. By all means, do not ignore reality and the challenges you face. However, realize you can conquer these challenges. They are obstacles you can overcome. We must all confront reality and live our lives in a responsible manner, but don’t let troubles define your mood or outlook.

I don’t believe in letting things get me down for long.  I try to keep an optimistic and cheerful disposition.  I read funny items in books and on social networking. I watch comedies, as well as positive films and television shows, about inspiring people and events. I like to see people positively achieve what is considered the impossible. It puts me in a good mood.

Having a positive frame of mind and immersing myself in good thoughts and ideas has repeatedly done wonders for my soul. I focus on the good things I love in life. It gives me strength and inspiration.

To those who are grieving, try to remember the good. Don’t become a fatalist. Life goes on and we have to as well. Take the good memories with you and move forward.

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Decision Making Can Make Or Break You

December 31, 2014

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Good decision making is important in life. It will set the tone for your life. Just so poor decision making can bring trouble to your life. Endeavor to make changes conducive to positive changes in your life. Don’t live recklessly or in a manner that will lead to preventable financial loss and spiritual bankruptcy.

Be careful who you listen to, as not everyone will lead you in the right direction. A good friend will tell you the truth and help put you on the right path to success and happiness. Some people you call friends, really aren’t so, when they are telling you to do dangerous things that can destroy your personal and business relationships.

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Friends who encourage you to cheat on your significant other or be promiscuous, do not have your best interests at heart, because it can cost you the one you love or your health to disease, over meaningless risks. Friends who encourage you to get involved in dishonest business dealings, do not have your best interests at heart, as you could end up losing what you have and or imprisoned.

It’s not every idea that pops into your mind or that of your friends that you should try. Temptation comes in many forms and can wreak havoc on your life. Learn self-control and how to think your choices through to obtain the best outcome. Make the best decisions you can to secure your personal happiness and prosperity, as well as that of your family. Remember, choices have consequences.

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Have You Raised A Heartbreaker?

November 30, 2014

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Michael Jackson’s famous megahit “Billie Jean” has a true lyric that states “Mama always told me be careful what you do/Don’t go around breaking young girls hearts.” It was good advice.

Are you raising a heartbreaker? Have you raised a heartbreaker and sent him or her out into the world causing others heartache? Parents aren’t always responsible for their children’s behavior, but there should be a conscious effort to teach them to be mindful of others’ feelings.

Some use the term “heartbreaker” as something to brag about, but it’s not. It’s someone who hurts their significant other and or people they recklessly lead on in thinking a relationship is more than what it actually is for them, in order to get what they want – namely sex or money.

Some men encourage their sons to be promiscuous, misleading them into thinking it is a sign of virility and makes them a real man. However, a real man does not behave like a cad. A real man loves one woman, not more than one at a time. A real man doesn’t string women along, tell them what they want to hear to get sex, then leave. Furthermore, being a heartbreaker can destroy your sexual health (sexually transmitted diseases) or cost you the one you love when the person finds out you’ve been cheating.

Some women encourage their daughters to play the field to find the richest man possible. They end up raising daughters, who exploit their bodies for money, becoming modern day harlots and Jezebels. They wreak havoc on themselves and people’s relationships and marriages, chasing money not meant to be their own, under dishonest circumstances. Do not deceive someone into thinking you love them, when you’re after their money. That type of money will do you no good in life.

Do not play with people’s feelings. Do not string people along. Do not give people false hope.  Do not use people for sex. If you are not sincere about the person, don’t start anything with them.

You see it all the time, regarding people developing feelings and become attached, only to discover it was just about sex or money and not love, then they end up heartbroken and devastated for believing a lie.

Encourage your children to find true love. In that is the blessing. Anything less is a travesty.

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Character Is Important In Love And Relationships

October 31, 2014

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It is important to have character, not only in business relationships, but personal ones as well. Character says you are honest with people and treat the one you are dating or married to with dignity and respect. It means faithfulness and fidelity.

Character is not cheating on the one you are dating or married to, as that is wrong. Character is not juggling different lovers. Sex is special. It shouldn’t be reduced to a crass and meaningless act solely for physical gratification. There’s nothing truly blessed about living in that manner, so change your ways for the betterment of your own life. Promiscuity and cheating opens people up to sexual hang-ups,  sexually transmitted diseases, dysfunction, depressioon and personal disasters. Sex is supposed to be about love, not a meaningless physical act.

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You will never find a decent and loyal person living in that manner. You will attract gold diggers and tramps, who will use you for all they can get and when you are no longer able to give them the financial resources or public attention they seek, they will abandon you.

When you take people for granted in this manner, using them for sex, it brings bad things into your life. Some call it reaping and sowing – others call it karma.  At the end of the day, be honest and faithful to one person, lest living in a promiscuous manner cost you the right person and a lifetime of regret.

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Waiting For Someone Who Isn’t Waiting For You

February 28, 2014

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In search for one’s soulmate, some have made the mistake of waiting on people who are not waiting on them. They sit on the sidelines and watch as their love interest dates someone else, with the hope one day they will begin dating them (sometimes they do, but it is still insulting that you were considered second or third or fourth best).

You should not wait for someone who is not waiting for you. Don’t put yourself in that situation. Don’t put yourself through that. You deserve better and more than that. If someone doesn’t love you enough to be with you, making you their love, don’t waste your time or tears on them, waiting while they date someone else. Don’t torture yourself like that. Find someone who will make you the priority. Find someone who will treat you well and as number one, which is what God intended.

There have been cases of people who were ignored in favor of others, then afterwards were pursued by the person they were in love with that was dating someone else at the time, who then  became upset when the individual they treated as second best found love with someone else. If you ignore someone in favor of others, you really have no right to be upset when they move on.

Treat people how you would want to be treated. You would not want someone dating others, having you wait in line until they felt like getting around to being with you. It lacks humility, conscience and compassion to treat another human being in that manner. No one deserves that. 

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Many Christians don’t engage in premarital sex and some have encountered people who want them, but want to engage in sex with others, but want the Christian person they are interested in to save themselves for them, while they play the field.

How is that fair or right. You’re not waiting, but believe you are entitled to someone else’s virginity. Some even get upset when the Christians they wanted but did not wait for sexually, go off and marries someone else. Many have told of their regrets at losing the one they love over not wanting to commit.

To lose the one you love over random flings is sad, but you cannot ask of people what you are not willing to be subjected to in any measure. It really isn’t fair. You wouldn’t want that done to you, so why do that to someone else. Put yourself in their shoes, would you want that done to you.

Many have regretted the aforementioned mistakes of youth, because at the end of the day, they don’t think about the people they had flings with, but the one they loved and lost. I’ve heard and read old men state with regret losing that love of their life for cheating and wishing they had been smarter with their choices when they were younger.

The average person is only young for a short time in comparison to the rest of their life. Don’t make poor decisions in your youth that set the tone for the rest of your life, causing you to lose the one you truly love, who is best for you.

No one wants to be treated like second best. Being young is no excuse. People should never settle for others who do not treat them with love, loyalty, dignity and respect. Don’t settle for anything less than true love. To those who try to outsmart and play love, you’re going to lose the one you love the most.

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Waiting Until Marriage To Have Sex Despite Hollywood’s Influence

 December 31, 2010

A research study has shown, couples who wait until they marry to have sex, have better sex lives. They also have longer lasting and more meaningful marriages. Teens and adults are under pressure via examples being set by Hollywood to engage in promiscuous sex, tossing consequences aside, such as unplanned pregnancies, deadly STDs and emotional trauma.

However, Hollywood is a horrible barometer for morality, as it simply lacks ethics, with its denizens leading very troubled and tormented lives. Don’t let anyone talk you into something that goes against what you believe. You stick to your faith and live your life with honor and dignity.

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Study Finds Benefits For Those Who Wait Until Marriage For Sex

Benefits in Delaying Sex Until Marriage

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