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Mismated For Money (Men And Women Who Date Others For Financial Reasons)

June 22, 2016

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Life can get complicated sometimes. People work to earn a living, but sometimes it is not enough to live the lifestyle they want. People think about financial security and sometimes it leads to poor choices. Sometimes people sacrifice love for money.

Most think women are the only ones who do this, regarding dating and or marrying a man for his money, while not being in love with him. However, there are men who date and or marry women they do not love nor are they attracted to, but go through with it because the woman has a good job or is wealthy and can provide financial security.

It is not right to deceive someone into thinking you are in love with them or love them, when you are only with them for money. You should want more for yourself than that. Nothing beats being in love. It’s great.

However, getting into a loveless relationship or marriage is not worth it, as it will break your heart and you will come to the cold, emotionally painful realization that money can’t buy love or happiness.

Remember, God knows your heart and true intent – and life can take some strange, unexpected turns. Do not go around using people. It will come back to you. Do not sacrifice your happiness, well-being and future with someone you do not love.

I know people this has happened to, who seriously regret dating/marrying someone for their money.

Furthermore, God expects you to marry those in the faith. It is a principle Christians adhere to (Jews and Muslims do as well regarding their respective religions). The Bible says, “Be not mismated with unbelievers.” Yet some Christians are doing this to disastrous results, all because the person is attractive, famous and or wealthy. You’re supposed to date and eventually marry a fellow believer (Christian) you are in love with, of any race, whether they are rich or poor, famous or not.

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WOMEN DATING OR MARRYING FOR MONEY

In one case, a person I know was in love with a guy who didn’t have any money. She adored him though. However, he was broke and that was a problem in her eyes. A man who had just made a million dollars started pursuing her, so she dumped the broke guy.

She went out with the guy that had just made the million dollars, then she married him, though she did not love him. Not long after things began to go terribly wrong. She went through a lot of emotional pain and disappointment and he ended up broke due to career problems and bad investments. It ended in a painful and acrimonious divorce. He realized she did not love him and even fathered children with someone else during the marriage. To make matters worse, the man she had actually loved who was broke, got his act together and became a medical professional who makes a big salary.

Some of you need to learn to work with the people you love, who may not have much now, but you can grow together. Money isn’t everything. Love is more important.

MEN DATING OR MARRYING FOR MONEY

Another case I know of, regarding a man who makes a decent salary, but does not think it will be enough to live the middle class or wealthy lifestyle he wants for the rest of his days, in trying to emulate his millionaire boss. So, he (a believer) sacrificed love by dating a woman (an atheist) he does not love and is not attracted to, whom everyone in his life thinks is wrong for him.

He is quite good looking, where people do not use that term in reference to her (I don’t want to be mean). When they go out, people stare at them like the odd couple for this reason, as he is good looking and that’s not her strong point. He is also well built. In reverse, it is the equivalent of what people call an average looking guy going out with a gorgeous woman – people stare and wonder how it happened and what’s going on (looking at the gorgeous woman wondering if the guy is holding her hostage or something LOL).

People openly wonder what they are doing dating each other. She likes the fact that he is good looking but people are looking at them for the wrong reasons. As stated above, people are wondering and commenting on why they are dating, due to the difference in looks. I don’t like writing about people’s looks, because at the end of the day, we are born looking how we look, beautiful or not and had no input on the matter. However, society looks at these things.

She is also hoping to use him to make money, as he has potential, but to be dating someone he is not attracted to, placing money first, he is showing he does not have enough confidence in himself and his earning ability. She is not rich, but has a fairly decent paying job. She has used her job skills and helped him make money. She also pays for things and at times has given him money. This is how she got him to go out with her in the first place, because as stated above, he is not in love with her nor is he attracted to her and his friends know this.

His friends know he is using her. His friends do not approve of the relationship. His parents worry he is sacrificing his own happiness over money in dating someone they know he does not love nor is he in love with her in any measure.

She, so desperate to cling to this good looking man, has turned it into hero worship complimenting everything he does, right or wrong, which is insincere and dangerous, as at times it leads to him making choices that are not in his best interest. His friends have witnessed this as well. People need others in their lives who tell them the truth for their own good.

He and the woman should have been business associates/friends at most, not lovers. However, to encourage her to continue to help him and to thank her for helping him make a bit of money, he started taking her out and having sex with her, leading her on, which is highly inappropriate, misleading and unethical.

So, this man has been dating this woman for money. However, her job/career is in jeopardy and he is going to promptly leave her when he figures it out, as money is the only reason he is dating her. To complicate matters, after dating her for a while, he started to cheat on her.  To complicate matters even more, recently he fell in love with a woman he met online who is similar to him, as they have a lot in common. However, he wrongly thinks she is broke and wants the modest sum of money he has in the bank. Little does he know she has more assets and money in trust than he and his girlfriend combined. She just pretends to be broke (LOL).

The moral of the story is do not date or marry people for money. It will backfire. It is better to choose a poor person you love than a rich one you do not, because you will end up miserable if you make the choice based on financial security (not to mention, money can go overnight, it’s happened to many).

People also get used to and sometimes grow tired of money, failing to see it as they once did, but you never grow tired of truly being in love. It doesn’t matter what color or country the person you love comes from, but choose them because you love them…not their money.

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Character Is Important In Love And Relationships

October 31, 2014

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It is important to have character, not only in business relationships, but personal ones as well. Character says you are honest with people and treat the one you are dating or married to with dignity and respect. It means faithfulness and fidelity.

Character is not cheating on the one you are dating or married to, as that is wrong. Character is not juggling different lovers. Sex is special. It shouldn’t be reduced to a crass and meaningless act solely for physical gratification. There’s nothing truly blessed about living in that manner, so change your ways for the betterment of your own life. Promiscuity and cheating opens people up to sexual hang-ups,  sexually transmitted diseases, dysfunction, depressioon and personal disasters. Sex is supposed to be about love, not a meaningless physical act.

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You will never find a decent and loyal person living in that manner. You will attract gold diggers and tramps, who will use you for all they can get and when you are no longer able to give them the financial resources or public attention they seek, they will abandon you.

When you take people for granted in this manner, using them for sex, it brings bad things into your life. Some call it reaping and sowing – others call it karma.  At the end of the day, be honest and faithful to one person, lest living in a promiscuous manner cost you the right person and a lifetime of regret.

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The Perils Of Dating Or Marrying Outside The Faith

January 31, 2014

Be Careful Of Relationships And Love Interests That Lure You Away From The Faith And God’s Blessings

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Falling in love can be a powerful thing. Sometimes you think it’s love, when it’s lust and infatuation wreaking havoc on your hormones and emotions. Some are so taken with how their love interest looks, they overlook blaring problems in their relationship.

Most people want to date and or marry someone they deem gorgeous, as physical attraction is apart of love. There’s nothing wrong with that. However, being pretty on the outside, but ugly at heart is not good or desirable.

Some relationships are not of God. People sometimes try to force relationships that God never intended. All the signs are there that you two are not compatible and there are significant differences, but focusing on looks, you overlook serious flaws.

God is sending you warning signs that there is trouble ahead, but you’re not paying attention, trying to make something fit that was not meant to be. Stop trying to make a dating relationship work with a person not of the faith that God never intended you to be with.

The Lord would not put you with an unbeliever or someone trying to lead you into another religion. God would not give you someone doing that. As a dating principle, the word of God instructs, “Be not mismated with unbelievers.” This means not dating and or marrying people who are not of the Christian faith, as it is a Bible principle.

There are many examples of believers who have fallen in love and gone off with people who are not Christians and it led to heartbreak, trouble, contention, strife, regret and them straying from their principles and beliefs, to their own detriment.

God put his blessings over your life, do not jeopardize that over a good looking face, with a faithless heart. That’s not God’s plan for your life. God would never do that, as it goes against His word (the Bible). You’ve been lead astray by physical attraction. That’s not real love.

What seemed passionate and exciting at first, becomes a nightmare when the non-Christian you are dating then marry, starts disrespecting and belittling your beliefs and discouraging your hopes and dreams.

Significant problems will arise when they start asking you to compromise what you believe (to suit them). And don’t think you will change them, because you won’t. It will not end well.

Some of you are dating people not of the faith, whom you will marry and they will end up leading you away from the faith and straight into disaster.

God has loved you since you were born. Do not abandon the faith over a pretty face or handsome man, as looks fade, but what’s in the heart never does.

In 10-years (or less) their looks will begin to change (as does everybody’s) and you will be in a marriage that is supposed to be for life, with someone you are not compatible with and the very thing you married them for, their looks, have begun to fade.

Make sure you marry a Christian and one you are truly in love with. To do otherwise will wreak havoc on your marriage and life. When you love and are compatible with someone,  bonded by the faith, even as time goes by, you will still love them. That love will grow. These are the marriages that last.

What happens when you marry a person not of the faith and they try to take over your life and change you into something you are not, wanting you to become something you are not comfortable with. Do you know how aggravating, distressing and upsetting that has been for Christians who have experienced this.

What happens when your faithless significant other tries to raise your children as atheists, to their detriment. What happens when your significant other of another religion tries to raise your children in that religion, rather than Christianity, to their detriment.

The word of God indicates all roads do not lead to God. Are you willing to risk your spiritual well being as well as that of your future children, by marrying someone not of the faith, who will unquestionably try to change your beliefs, offending God in the process.

How will you feel when the person raises your children as unbelievers, instilling pessimism and lack of belief in your offspring. What about your future children’s souls. You should want better for your future children. A life of hope and faith, rich in love, is priceless. It nourishes the soul.

It is and will be the source of arguments and contention, causing you unnecessary pain and frustration in life, all over a physical attraction to someone who is at odds with your faith and the God that made you.

Anyone who would lead you away from the faith doesn’t care about your beliefs or soul nor do they respect you as a person. God would never put you with that person. You are in lust and it is clouding your judgement.

What happens on the other side after you leave this life. What will you tell God regarding having left the faith over an ill-fated relationship He never intended. If you have left the faith, I encourage you to return, as once again, the Bible indicates all roads do not lead to God (only Jesus).

If you are in a dating relationship with a non-Christian, I recommend you end the relationship. It’s going to lead you down a road of regret, as many have found out the hard way.

Pray and ask God to send you the one He intended for you and to confirm it to you in your heart and mind. God does have someone for you. He knows who you are most compatible with, who will compliment you and bring out the best in you. God knows who you will be happiest with – the person who is your ideal mate.

However, God is not going to force His plan for your life on you, as He has given you free will. Choose wisely, as it is important to your life and soul and future of your family.

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