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Women Who Do Not Pay Enough Attention To Their Children To Chase After Men

November 30. 2017

Some women do not pay enough attention to their children, who end up falling to the wayside. They spend more of their time focusing on the man they are after, rather than their kids and it results in their children being neglected.

Children need help with school work and the social issues facing them. They should be the priority in your life. Not the man you are chasing after, who may let you down and end up with someone else anyway. However, your children are your family and deserve your time and effort.

I’m not stating you should not try to find a good man and get married. What I am stating is keep things in perspective. Prioritize what’s most important and that’s your child/children. Find the correct balance.

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When A Man Abandons His Son It Damages A Boy’s Psyche

October 31. 2017

Some men put their own needs ahead of that of their children, leaving a woman to raise their offspring. Some men want to be free, with no commitments after siring their offspring and leave the entire responsibility of raising the child on the mother. It is pure selfishness.

I’ve noticed it is easier for women to raise girls than boys. There is something within a young boy’s psyche that is damaged and devastated when their dad abandons them. A number of young men who come from homes where the dad abandoned them, are easily swayed and get involved in a life of crime. This is not the rule in every case. However, it holds true in many cases. Whereas, girls sometimes later choose the wrong type of partners and tolerate abusive things they should not, due to feelings of insecurity created by an absentee father.

When boys start to to approach their early teen years without the guidance of a good father, they can easily go astray. As hard as mothers may try, the direction and discipline of a dad is important to a boy’s development.

Boys whose dads have abandoned them, grow up wounded, bitter and disappointed. Some process it in a productive manner in vowing to be good dads when they get older and make something of themselves. Others become reckless and look for fatherly guidance and acceptance from older gang members/street criminals.

You will see it within the same family in a number of cases, where a single mother can raise girls and boys, and the girls will stay out of criminal trouble, but the boys fall prey to crime, due to being young males looking for guidance and validation in gangs/criminals that they did not get from their absentee fathers. They often lack that feeling of belonging and seek to fill that void with the wrong things.

Mothers, pray for your sons. Don’t give up on them. Realize you as a mother cannot be a father to them, but you have to drum it into them on a regular basis that they must stay out of criminal trouble and be ethical in life. Remind them often that they are loved, special and can achieve greatness.

Men, do not abandon your children. You have a responsibility to them. Be great fathers and set the right example. You can raise wonderful, successful children. You have it within your mind and heart to do so. God bless.

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People Who Walk Out On Their Families For Adulterous Relationships (God Doesn’t Bless Mess)

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July 31, 2017

There’s a famous singer/songwriter in his 50s who left his wife after 25-years of marriage and three kids, to marry a vain Hollywood type (actress). The woman he left his wife for is a few years younger than she is, but not better looking.

There is no blessing in that. He is headed for trouble. He’s flaunting his new wife on social networking, but his fans are disappointed and perplexed by his behavior. He used to speak so well of his first wife, even stating he wrote hit songs about her. Then cheats on her with the actress, divorces and marries his mistress and posts it all over social networking like he’s going through some mid-life crisis. It’s not his best moment.

His behavior and in clear sight of any and everyone, caused the public to lose faith in love.

He had been cheating on his first wife and it broke the marriage (though he won’t admit it). I can’t imagine his behavior will change with the second wife, as their union was not about love, but sex. They are not compatible either, which is not helpful to a new marriage. He was quite compatible with his first wife and the marriage lasted 25-years, until his mistress pressured him into filing for divorce. Now he doesn’t look happy with the second wife and it has only been a couple years.

For a few years before the divorce, I knew about him cheating on his first wife, but didn’t write about it on any of my sites or repeat what I was told regarding the infidelity, despite the fact it would have been a scoop online. I was more disappointed than anything, as for years this man kept stating how he loves his wife and wrote all these songs about her that me and many others bought for years (music CDs).

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There’s an athlete who has left his wife for a younger, so-called businesswoman, who is only after him for his money and fame. He is currently separated from his wife. Now his young kids have to deal with daddy not being there in the house anymore and one of them is sick. The athlete posted photos on social networking of his kids and now they look sad. Their dad does not live with them anymore and that’s tough for any kid who is used to both parents living in the same house.

His wife was with him when he had nothing. Now he’s with a money hungry woman who is playing him and for all to see. His fans know, but he doesn’t realize it. He is flaunting on social networking a woman, who unbeknownst to him is a gold digger. His fans who know what happened with his wife, are disappointed, as they know he is married to someone else.

This woman has no shame either to be posing up on social networking with someone else’s husband and showing off the things she bought with his money. She was not entitled to that money or those things. God doesn’t bless mess.

That’s not to say God won’t bless someone in that situation. It simply means He will not bless a marriage or relationship born out of adultery. He clearly states in the Bible that He punishes it Spiritually speaking, it will lead to heartbreak, trouble and suffering in life. Leave other people’s spouses alone. As it is written, “What God has put together, let no man pull apart.”

He should not have left his wife. There is no blessing in that. He is headed for trouble. In fact, he needs to go back to his wife, as the divorce has not been made final. That would be the right thing to do. God can help them reconcile.

I sometimes wonder how men can’t tell when a woman is after them for their money. For example, the woman the athlete is dating, is all of a sudden in charge of his career when she knows nothing about the sport and has no experience, but is controlling his financial interests. Dead giveaway. It’s not beneficial to his career. A qualified professional in the sports industry would make him far more money and provide better career guidance.

Some men cheat in trying to recapture their youth. However, they are not going to get their youth back. No one does and to be a well adjusted person, one must understand the stages of life. At the end of the day, being an adult is about responsibility. When you make a commitment, especially in marriage, you should honor it with fidelity.

If you are in an adulterous relationship I encourage you to stop cheating, ask God for forgiveness and go back to your spouse, if you have not already divorced. The Bible has specific conditions about marriage, divorce and frowns upon the adulterous party remarrying.

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The Perils Of Dating Or Marrying Outside The Faith

January 31, 2014

Be Careful Of Relationships And Love Interests That Lure You Away From The Faith And God’s Blessings

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Falling in love can be a powerful thing. Sometimes you think it’s love, when it’s lust and infatuation wreaking havoc on your hormones and emotions. Some are so taken with how their love interest looks, they overlook blaring problems in their relationship.

Most people want to date and or marry someone they deem gorgeous, as physical attraction is apart of love. There’s nothing wrong with that. However, being pretty on the outside, but ugly at heart is not good or desirable.

Some relationships are not of God. People sometimes try to force relationships that God never intended. All the signs are there that you two are not compatible and there are significant differences, but focusing on looks, you overlook serious flaws.

God is sending you warning signs that there is trouble ahead, but you’re not paying attention, trying to make something fit that was not meant to be. Stop trying to make a dating relationship work with a person not of the faith that God never intended you to be with.

The Lord would not put you with an unbeliever or someone trying to lead you into another religion. God would not give you someone doing that. As a dating principle, the word of God instructs, “Be not mismated with unbelievers.” This means not dating and or marrying people who are not of the Christian faith, as it is a Bible principle.

There are many examples of believers who have fallen in love and gone off with people who are not Christians and it led to heartbreak, trouble, contention, strife, regret and them straying from their principles and beliefs, to their own detriment.

God put his blessings over your life, do not jeopardize that over a good looking face, with a faithless heart. That’s not God’s plan for your life. God would never do that, as it goes against His word (the Bible). You’ve been lead astray by physical attraction. That’s not real love.

What seemed passionate and exciting at first, becomes a nightmare when the non-Christian you are dating then marry, starts disrespecting and belittling your beliefs and discouraging your hopes and dreams.

Significant problems will arise when they start asking you to compromise what you believe (to suit them). And don’t think you will change them, because you won’t. It will not end well.

Some of you are dating people not of the faith, whom you will marry and they will end up leading you away from the faith and straight into disaster.

God has loved you since you were born. Do not abandon the faith over a pretty face or handsome man, as looks fade, but what’s in the heart never does.

In 10-years (or less) their looks will begin to change (as does everybody’s) and you will be in a marriage that is supposed to be for life, with someone you are not compatible with and the very thing you married them for, their looks, have begun to fade.

Make sure you marry a Christian and one you are truly in love with. To do otherwise will wreak havoc on your marriage and life. When you love and are compatible with someone,  bonded by the faith, even as time goes by, you will still love them. That love will grow. These are the marriages that last.

What happens when you marry a person not of the faith and they try to take over your life and change you into something you are not, wanting you to become something you are not comfortable with. Do you know how aggravating, distressing and upsetting that has been for Christians who have experienced this.

What happens when your faithless significant other tries to raise your children as atheists, to their detriment. What happens when your significant other of another religion tries to raise your children in that religion, rather than Christianity, to their detriment.

The word of God indicates all roads do not lead to God. Are you willing to risk your spiritual well being as well as that of your future children, by marrying someone not of the faith, who will unquestionably try to change your beliefs, offending God in the process.

How will you feel when the person raises your children as unbelievers, instilling pessimism and lack of belief in your offspring. What about your future children’s souls. You should want better for your future children. A life of hope and faith, rich in love, is priceless. It nourishes the soul.

It is and will be the source of arguments and contention, causing you unnecessary pain and frustration in life, all over a physical attraction to someone who is at odds with your faith and the God that made you.

Anyone who would lead you away from the faith doesn’t care about your beliefs or soul nor do they respect you as a person. God would never put you with that person. You are in lust and it is clouding your judgement.

What happens on the other side after you leave this life. What will you tell God regarding having left the faith over an ill-fated relationship He never intended. If you have left the faith, I encourage you to return, as once again, the Bible indicates all roads do not lead to God (only Jesus).

If you are in a dating relationship with a non-Christian, I recommend you end the relationship. It’s going to lead you down a road of regret, as many have found out the hard way.

Pray and ask God to send you the one He intended for you and to confirm it to you in your heart and mind. God does have someone for you. He knows who you are most compatible with, who will compliment you and bring out the best in you. God knows who you will be happiest with – the person who is your ideal mate.

However, God is not going to force His plan for your life on you, as He has given you free will. Choose wisely, as it is important to your life and soul and future of your family.

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Terrorists Open Fire At A Coptic Christian Wedding In Egypt Killing Adults And A Child

October 31, 2013

Coptic Christian church in Cairo that held a wedding ambushed by violent gunmen

Once again Christianity is under attack in select politically distressed regions of the world. Terrorists opened fire during a Coptic Christian wedding, killing 2 children and 11 adults. The unprovoked ambush and gunfire is inexcusable. What should have been one of the happiest days of a couple’s lives was marred by violence and hatred. Islam is supposed to be a “religion of peace.” Instead fundamentalist Islamists are creating Christian martyrs by murdering innocent people going about their lives, who’ve done them no harm.

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Egypt: gunmen open fire at Coptic Christian wedding in Cairo

Monday 21 October 2013 07.34 EDT – Four people, including an eight-year-old girl, killed in suspected sectarian attack on minority which makes up 10% of population.  Gunmen shot dead at least four Egyptians outside a Coptic Christian church on the edge of Cairo on Sunday evening as worshippers left the building after a wedding, state media reported. Two adults and two girls aged eight and 12 were killed, and at least 12 others injured, after the gunmen sprayed bullets seemingly at random…

http://www.theguardian.com

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Terrorists Murder 50 College Students In Nigeria

September 30, 2013

Boko Haram has struck again in Nigeria. New reports indicate 50 innocent college student were murdered in their dormitory by Boko Haram, as the terrorist sect opposes “Western education.” The Nigerian government has beefed up security at Nigerian schools in the wake of the incident.

Nigeria is approximately half Christian and half Muslim, with Boko Haram trying through violence and murder, to impose Sharia law upon the entire nation of 170,000,0000 people. Nigeria is sitting on massive oil reserves, making them Africa’s largest producer – another aspect of the equation Boko Haram seeks to control.

The month, fellow African nation, Kenya, faced a horrible, unconscionable terrorist attack at the Westgate Mall in Nairobi, where Somali terrorist group al Shabaab heinously executed shoppers who could not recite a verse of the Koran, the book of the Muslim religion. Children were found dead in mall freezers with knives stuck in their bodies. Men and women were tortured, eyes gouged out and limbs removed in the despicable attack.

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Doctor Dismissed For Religious Beliefs

July 31, 2009

 Dr. Sheila Matthews

Dr. Sheila Matthews was removed from an adoption panel, due to her religious beliefs as a Christian, which compelled her not to support gay adoptions. This is clearly a wrongful dismissal and she should fight it.

Christian doctor is axed from panel over failing to back gay adoption

Last updated at 12:51 AM on 20th July 2009 – A doctor has been removed from an adoption panel because she refuses to endorse applications by homosexual couples.

Dr Sheila Matthews, who is a Christian, was told that her beliefs on gay adoption were incompatible with equality legislation and council policies. The paediatrician had asked to be allowed to abstain from voting in cases involving same-sex couples. But that led to her being barred from the panel altogether.

The married mother of one said she had been ‘made to pay for being honest and upholding my personal integrity’. ‘I don’t feel that placing children for adoption with same-sex couples is the best place for them,’ said the 50-year-old doctor.

‘As a Christian, I don’t believe it’s an appropriate lifestyle and I don’t believe the outcomes for children would be as good as if they were placed with heterosexual couples.’

Dr Matthews said men and women brought different skills to parenting, with mothers more nurturing and fathers more challenging. She said children of gay adoptive parents would be more likely to be bullied.

‘Professionally and personally I cannot recommend placement in a same-sex household to be in the best interest of a child, despite what politicians may have legislated for,’ she said…More than 3,200 children were adopted in England last year – 90 by gay couples.

 http://www.dailymail.co.uk

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