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Are You Raising Your Sons To Respect Women?

September 30. 2017

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How are you raising your sons to treat women? Are you teaching your sons to respect and treat women well? Are you setting a good example for your sons, regarding how a woman should behave? Do you condone poor behavior from your son’s father, leading the child to believe men are to be mean and disrespectful to women?

Women should be careful in not coddling their sons and telling them everything they do is right. You do not want your son to adopt the view women are doormats and must do everything they say. If they grow up with that view, they will encounter smart and strong women, who are not doormats and they will react badly to not getting their way. They must learn compromise.

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You should teach your sons to respect women. Do not encourage or applaud promiscuous behavior. Teach your sons that it is not good to be a playboy using women for sex then dumping them, as that is disgraceful. Some of you see your sons dating many women and at the same time and don’t say anything about it. You are condoning behavior that could destroy your offspring and women (sexually transmitted diseases, destroyed relationships).

Do not raise a cheater. Do not raise a son that grows up to go around hurting women. Raise a son that treats women with dignity and respect.

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People Who Walk Out On Their Families For Adulterous Relationships (God Doesn’t Bless Mess)

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July 31, 2017

There’s a famous singer/songwriter in his 50s who left his wife after 25-years of marriage and three kids, to marry a vain Hollywood type (actress). The woman he left his wife for is a few years younger than she is, but not better looking.

There is no blessing in that. He is headed for trouble. He’s flaunting his new wife on social networking, but his fans are disappointed and perplexed by his behavior. He used to speak so well of his first wife, even stating he wrote hit songs about her. Then cheats on her with the actress, divorces and marries his mistress and posts it all over social networking like he’s going through some mid-life crisis. It’s not his best moment.

His behavior and in clear sight of any and everyone, caused the public to lose faith in love.

He had been cheating on his first wife and it broke the marriage (though he won’t admit it). I can’t imagine his behavior will change with the second wife, as their union was not about love, but sex. They are not compatible either, which is not helpful to a new marriage. He was quite compatible with his first wife and the marriage lasted 25-years, until his mistress pressured him into filing for divorce. Now he doesn’t look happy with the second wife and it has only been a couple years.

For a few years before the divorce, I knew about him cheating on his first wife, but didn’t write about it on any of my sites or repeat what I was told regarding the infidelity, despite the fact it would have been a scoop online. I was more disappointed than anything, as for years this man kept stating how he loves his wife and wrote all these songs about her that me and many others bought for years (music CDs).

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There’s an athlete who has left his wife for a younger, so-called businesswoman, who is only after him for his money and fame. He is currently separated from his wife. Now his young kids have to deal with daddy not being there in the house anymore and one of them is sick. The athlete posted photos on social networking of his kids and now they look sad. Their dad does not live with them anymore and that’s tough for any kid who is used to both parents living in the same house.

His wife was with him when he had nothing. Now he’s with a money hungry woman who is playing him and for all to see. His fans know, but he doesn’t realize it. He is flaunting on social networking a woman, who unbeknownst to him is a gold digger. His fans who know what happened with his wife, are disappointed, as they know he is married to someone else.

This woman has no shame either to be posing up on social networking with someone else’s husband and showing off the things she bought with his money. She was not entitled to that money or those things. God doesn’t bless mess.

That’s not to say God won’t bless someone in that situation. It simply means He will not bless a marriage or relationship born out of adultery. He clearly states in the Bible that He punishes it Spiritually speaking, it will lead to heartbreak, trouble and suffering in life. Leave other people’s spouses alone. As it is written, “What God has put together, let no man pull apart.”

He should not have left his wife. There is no blessing in that. He is headed for trouble. In fact, he needs to go back to his wife, as the divorce has not been made final. That would be the right thing to do. God can help them reconcile.

I sometimes wonder how men can’t tell when a woman is after them for their money. For example, the woman the athlete is dating, is all of a sudden in charge of his career when she knows nothing about the sport and has no experience, but is controlling his financial interests. Dead giveaway. It’s not beneficial to his career. A qualified professional in the sports industry would make him far more money and provide better career guidance.

Some men cheat in trying to recapture their youth. However, they are not going to get their youth back. No one does and to be a well adjusted person, one must understand the stages of life. At the end of the day, being an adult is about responsibility. When you make a commitment, especially in marriage, you should honor it with fidelity.

If you are in an adulterous relationship I encourage you to stop cheating, ask God for forgiveness and go back to your spouse, if you have not already divorced. The Bible has specific conditions about marriage, divorce and frowns upon the adulterous party remarrying.

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Jamal Bryant’s Fall From Grace

May 31, 2016

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45-year-old university educated pastor Jamal Bryant has experienced an ongoing fall from grace that needs to be corrected. Bryant was once married to beautiful, educated “Real Housewives Of Potomac” reality star, Gizelle Bryant, who is the mother of his 3 children. However, he cheated on her during their marriage with a member of their congregation, who was 17-years-old. The underage girl became pregnant. More recently, Bryant impregnated another woman after his divorce and out of wedlock. There are now claims a woman was pressured into aborting his baby after an affair, but refused and gave birth to his son last summer. The DNA test concludes it is Bryant’s baby.

Pastors should not behave in this manner. The Bible makes it very clear, pastors are in a leadership position and must set a good example. Bryant has admitted there is nothing wrong with his ex-wife, who has been devastated by his unfaithful, disloyal behavior. He decided he was going to engage in sexual behavior he knew to be wrong.  At the end of the day, cheating is a choice, not a compulsion. It can be controlled. In life, you either choose to do the right or wrong thing.

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It is a matter of concern that Bryant keeps falling into sexual sin while in the pulpit. This is serious. He needs to stop engaging in behavior the Bible deems wrong, as it is not setting a good example. Bryant needs to ask God for forgiveness, turn his life around and stop setting a bad example as a pastor.

No human is perfect, but to keep getting into the same serious spiritual trouble that has torn his family apart, while trying to teach people the right way to live, is a contradiction that will not yield fruitful results. It cannot be, “Do as I say and not as I do.” Bryant needs to pray and seek counseling for his sexual proclivities and redouble his efforts to live a decent life.

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What Kind Of Man Has Sex With His Best Friend’s Girl

 August 31, 2015

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What type of man has sex with his best friend’s girl? A cruel one who should have listened to his conscience and not done it. A famous man in his twenties had sex with one of his best friends’ girlfriend. His best friend is even planning on marrying this woman, who betrayed him in this manner, but he doesn’t know about it yet.

The athlete’s on and off again girlfriend, who doesn’t love him but has sex with the star for money, gifts and to show off to people online and in person, is also best friends with this girl that her famous on and off again boyfriend had sex with behind everyone’s back. They both betrayed their friends by having sex with each other, in something that was so unnecessary.

The friend shouldn’t be surprised though, as he has watched in disappointment as the famous man cheated on his girlfriend with many women he even openly flirted with online, thinking it makes him look like a macho man, when it has only served to make him look very bad to his fans and former female admirers, who thought he was decent.

At the encouragement of some of his other friends, who are promiscuous and live vicariously through him, the famous athlete is on social networking behaving like an absolute dog in heat and it has turned off many women who were once fans.

It has also given potential advertisers great pause. In trying to prove he is a stud to men online without morals, he has cost himself a lot of money as potential endorsers who make big deals with celebrities took one look at his social networking pages and decided they did not want him fronting their family oriented brands.

His extraordinary lack of self-restraint is not only costing him many fans who have ethics, but a fortune in money he would have made from endorsements. This is ironic as the athlete doesn’t have that much funds to begin with and could legitimately go broke in the not too distant future.

I feel bad for the athlete’s friend, as he really loves this woman, who has so betrayed him. They’ve made a fool of this poor guy, who has been there for both of them through some of the toughest times in their lives.

The guy brags about her on social networking all the time and has told many people he is going to marry her (and vice versa) yet she betrayed him with the athlete that he’s known and supported like a brother for years. Their families all know each other as well. Their parents are going to be devastated at the betrayal.

It’s not everything in life that you can do that you should do. When some opportunities present themselves, you should have the decency and moral fiber to say no, as it is a hurtful betrayal of others and can cause innocent people lasting pain.

Some of the famous athlete’s friends are partly to blame for what has happened. They encourage him to behave like a dog with women who talk to him solely because he is famous. These women do not care about him and he does not care about them, but he has sex with them anyway, putting his health and others at risk.

His friends, who need to grow up and stop being leeches, brag about his sexual promiscuity on social networking, offending his fans and it has run away so many decent women from the athlete, who once thought he was good, but now label him a dog.

His friends encourage him to party when he should be training or resting. They know nothing about sports or career management, but due to their affiliation with the famous athlete, think they now know it all when they are not responsible for his success (God, the athlete, his manager, coach/trainer and business people are responsible for his success).

His friends have him out partying and drinking on the weekends in something that is going to breed failure in his career and destroy his persona life and health. An athlete training during the weekdays and partying on the weekends will damage his body, career and bank account. That’s a negative cycle being repeated week after week and taking its toll.

His friends use his name to get into parties and various venues. They name drop him to get women to have sex with them who are trying to get close to the athlete, not them. Any woman who would have sex with the friend of an athlete to get near the athlete to date said star needs to get new priorities in life.

His mother did not raise the athlete to behave like this and is not properly apprised of her son’s destructive behavior, but under the influence of a few friends, he has flown off the rails, getting into bad habits endangering all he has worked for in life.

The irony is if he got into trouble or his career fails, these same so-called friends would quickly abandon him. Yet he is risking everything under their bad advice and goading.

Now the main friend in their circle, who has been announcing how he plans to marry his girlfriend, has been betrayed by this behavior, as the athlete has had sex with one of his best friends’ fiancée, in something that never should have happened.

They wanted to see what it would be like to be with each other and let lust get the better of them. These two friends should have never sexually known each other, as it betrayed the people they have dated for years and truthfully, they do not belong together. They are incompatible. As the phrase goes, “With friends like these, who needs enemies.”

I keep thinking to myself, they couldn’t have said no to sex with each other for the sake of the poor guy, who actually loves this woman that he made known his intentions to marry. And said woman, who by all accounts is really in love with her fiancé, could have just said no to the athlete, who has known her fiancé for so many years.

Of all the women he could have picked, couldn’t he have just chosen not to have sex with his best friend’s woman. Some people are off limits. It is such a betrayal of a good friend, who trusted them both.

In another incident, said athlete has been flirting with and eying up another friend’s wife and people are noticing and are not amused. It’s not a good look. The friend is a married father and the athlete is lustfully staring at his wife in behavior that is completely disrespectful and wrong.

Said star needs to get a hold of himself, as his behavior has gone too far. And that friend is the type who would kill him in a rage over his wife (though it is something the site does not support or recommend, as violence is wrong).

When you start making such poor choices in life, it’s time to look in the mirror and ask yourself exactly why you have fallen to such lows and what you need to do to stop said downward spiral into depravity, before you destroy yourself or someone else. It’s time to change your behavior, as you are on a collision course with disaster.

People too often allow fame to cloud their judgment and they do things that destroys lives. God gives everyone a conscience and when you ignore it to engage in destructive behavior there are consequences in life.

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Destiny And Self-Control

September 30, 2014

In life it is always wise to learn to control yourself. Self-control or lack thereof can change the course of your life for the better or worse. Life is about working hard, enjoying your success, while making smart choices for the betterment of yourself and those around you.

Not everything that happens in life was meant to happen and it is a concept some do not understand. Often times people say or write the phrase “everything happens for a reason” but not everything is God’s plan. God gives us all free will and with it the right to make our own choices. However, choices have consequences and not just for us, those around us as well.

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Many people have damaged their destiny due to lack of self-control. The person who cheats on their significant other and loses the love of their life due to the aforementioned lack of self-control, has altered their destiny (and that of their significant other) with a regrettable choice that broke another person’s heart, not to mention, their own.

Promiscuity is another dangerous choice that destroys people. You see it a lot  in the entertainment industry, where stars sleep around with many people and in the process develop sexual problems, hang ups and dysfunctional behavior that leads them into trouble and sometimes incurable STDs (sexually transmitted diseases).

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Entertainers having sex with woman after woman, sometimes two or more at a time, in what is destructive, ungodly behavior, is emotionally, mentally and physically unhealthy. To those choosing this path, it becomes a lifestyle that brings them and others heartbreak and pain.

The irony is they don’t remember the names of many of their sex partners, but end up losing the love of their life over their rampant promiscuity and cheating, in deeds that are counterproductive and harmful. This creates long lasting heartbreak and regret that is preventable.

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Promiscuous people end up destroying their relationships and marriages, causing themselves and others tremendous emotional pain and suffering.  That is not God’s plan for anyone’s life. Sex was not meant to be abused in this manner. How is God’s blessing supposed to properly flow in your life when you are going around using and discarding sexual partners like meat, breaking people’s hearts and causing them pain. You are doing people wrong. This is not the way to treat people and God sees the tears you cause. Let that lifestyle go. Commit to one person.

The person who gets drunk, goes behind the wheel of a car, then crashes into another person, resulting in serious injury or death to another motorist or civilian, has made a poor choice that was not God’s plan for anyone. In the Bible people drank. That was not the issue. What is frowned upon is getting drunk and with good reason. When one is drunk, one is no longer sober or in control of one’s faculties, making one susceptible to harm and the error of engaging in destructive conduct not beneficial to anyone.

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In this world, women and children have been sexually assaulted and raped. That was not God’s plan either, as the Bible says not to do these things. Much like the good book is against murder, as it deprives another human being of their life and creates early bereavement for their loved ones.

God can forgive these sins if people pray for forgiveness. However, it is best to live an honest, decent life, where you are mindful of your choices and the impact they make on you and others, to minimize damage. Be a blessing to people. Don’t use your free will to set a bad example, break hearts, ruin lives and damage yourself.

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Don’t be reckless with your choices, operating under the mindset of “everything happens for a reason” or “what will be will be” as this thought process can manifest itself as negative, careless choices, damaging your life and others.

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The Perils Of Dating Or Marrying Outside The Faith

January 31, 2014

Be Careful Of Relationships And Love Interests That Lure You Away From The Faith And God’s Blessings

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Falling in love can be a powerful thing. Sometimes you think it’s love, when it’s lust and infatuation wreaking havoc on your hormones and emotions. Some are so taken with how their love interest looks, they overlook blaring problems in their relationship.

Most people want to date and or marry someone they deem gorgeous, as physical attraction is apart of love. There’s nothing wrong with that. However, being pretty on the outside, but ugly at heart is not good or desirable.

Some relationships are not of God. People sometimes try to force relationships that God never intended. All the signs are there that you two are not compatible and there are significant differences, but focusing on looks, you overlook serious flaws.

God is sending you warning signs that there is trouble ahead, but you’re not paying attention, trying to make something fit that was not meant to be. Stop trying to make a dating relationship work with a person not of the faith that God never intended you to be with.

The Lord would not put you with an unbeliever or someone trying to lead you into another religion. God would not give you someone doing that. As a dating principle, the word of God instructs, “Be not mismated with unbelievers.” This means not dating and or marrying people who are not of the Christian faith, as it is a Bible principle.

There are many examples of believers who have fallen in love and gone off with people who are not Christians and it led to heartbreak, trouble, contention, strife, regret and them straying from their principles and beliefs, to their own detriment.

God put his blessings over your life, do not jeopardize that over a good looking face, with a faithless heart. That’s not God’s plan for your life. God would never do that, as it goes against His word (the Bible). You’ve been lead astray by physical attraction. That’s not real love.

What seemed passionate and exciting at first, becomes a nightmare when the non-Christian you are dating then marry, starts disrespecting and belittling your beliefs and discouraging your hopes and dreams.

Significant problems will arise when they start asking you to compromise what you believe (to suit them). And don’t think you will change them, because you won’t. It will not end well.

Some of you are dating people not of the faith, whom you will marry and they will end up leading you away from the faith and straight into disaster.

God has loved you since you were born. Do not abandon the faith over a pretty face or handsome man, as looks fade, but what’s in the heart never does.

In 10-years (or less) their looks will begin to change (as does everybody’s) and you will be in a marriage that is supposed to be for life, with someone you are not compatible with and the very thing you married them for, their looks, have begun to fade.

Make sure you marry a Christian and one you are truly in love with. To do otherwise will wreak havoc on your marriage and life. When you love and are compatible with someone,  bonded by the faith, even as time goes by, you will still love them. That love will grow. These are the marriages that last.

What happens when you marry a person not of the faith and they try to take over your life and change you into something you are not, wanting you to become something you are not comfortable with. Do you know how aggravating, distressing and upsetting that has been for Christians who have experienced this.

What happens when your faithless significant other tries to raise your children as atheists, to their detriment. What happens when your significant other of another religion tries to raise your children in that religion, rather than Christianity, to their detriment.

The word of God indicates all roads do not lead to God. Are you willing to risk your spiritual well being as well as that of your future children, by marrying someone not of the faith, who will unquestionably try to change your beliefs, offending God in the process.

How will you feel when the person raises your children as unbelievers, instilling pessimism and lack of belief in your offspring. What about your future children’s souls. You should want better for your future children. A life of hope and faith, rich in love, is priceless. It nourishes the soul.

It is and will be the source of arguments and contention, causing you unnecessary pain and frustration in life, all over a physical attraction to someone who is at odds with your faith and the God that made you.

Anyone who would lead you away from the faith doesn’t care about your beliefs or soul nor do they respect you as a person. God would never put you with that person. You are in lust and it is clouding your judgement.

What happens on the other side after you leave this life. What will you tell God regarding having left the faith over an ill-fated relationship He never intended. If you have left the faith, I encourage you to return, as once again, the Bible indicates all roads do not lead to God (only Jesus).

If you are in a dating relationship with a non-Christian, I recommend you end the relationship. It’s going to lead you down a road of regret, as many have found out the hard way.

Pray and ask God to send you the one He intended for you and to confirm it to you in your heart and mind. God does have someone for you. He knows who you are most compatible with, who will compliment you and bring out the best in you. God knows who you will be happiest with – the person who is your ideal mate.

However, God is not going to force His plan for your life on you, as He has given you free will. Choose wisely, as it is important to your life and soul and future of your family.

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