February 28, 2014
In search for one’s soulmate, some have made the mistake of waiting on people who are not waiting on them. They sit on the sidelines and watch as their love interest dates someone else, with the hope one day they will begin dating them (sometimes they do, but it is still insulting that you were considered second or third or fourth best).
You should not wait for someone who is not waiting for you. Don’t put yourself in that situation. Don’t put yourself through that. You deserve better and more than that. If someone doesn’t love you enough to be with you, making you their love, don’t waste your time or tears on them, waiting while they date someone else. Don’t torture yourself like that. Find someone who will make you the priority. Find someone who will treat you well and as number one, which is what God intended.
There have been cases of people who were ignored in favor of others, then afterwards were pursued by the person they were in love with that was dating someone else at the time, who then became upset when the individual they treated as second best found love with someone else. If you ignore someone in favor of others, you really have no right to be upset when they move on.
Treat people how you would want to be treated. You would not want someone dating others, having you wait in line until they felt like getting around to being with you. It lacks humility, conscience and compassion to treat another human being in that manner. No one deserves that.
Many Christians don’t engage in premarital sex and some have encountered people who want them, but want to engage in sex with others, but want the Christian person they are interested in to save themselves for them, while they play the field.
How is that fair or right. You’re not waiting, but believe you are entitled to someone else’s virginity. Some even get upset when the Christians they wanted but did not wait for sexually, go off and marries someone else. Many have told of their regrets at losing the one they love over not wanting to commit.
To lose the one you love over random flings is sad, but you cannot ask of people what you are not willing to be subjected to in any measure. It really isn’t fair. You wouldn’t want that done to you, so why do that to someone else. Put yourself in their shoes, would you want that done to you.
Many have regretted the aforementioned mistakes of youth, because at the end of the day, they don’t think about the people they had flings with, but the one they loved and lost. I’ve heard and read old men state with regret losing that love of their life for cheating and wishing they had been smarter with their choices when they were younger.
The average person is only young for a short time in comparison to the rest of their life. Don’t make poor decisions in your youth that set the tone for the rest of your life, causing you to lose the one you truly love, who is best for you.
No one wants to be treated like second best. Being young is no excuse. People should never settle for others who do not treat them with love, loyalty, dignity and respect. Don’t settle for anything less than true love. To those who try to outsmart and play love, you’re going to lose the one you love the most.