July 31, 2017
There’s a famous singer/songwriter in his 50s who left his wife after 25-years of marriage and three kids, to marry a vain Hollywood type (actress). The woman he left his wife for is a few years younger than she is, but not better looking.
There is no blessing in that. He is headed for trouble. He’s flaunting his new wife on social networking, but his fans are disappointed and perplexed by his behavior. He used to speak so well of his first wife, even stating he wrote hit songs about her. Then cheats on her with the actress, divorces and marries his mistress and posts it all over social networking like he’s going through some mid-life crisis. It’s not his best moment.
His behavior and in clear sight of any and everyone, caused the public to lose faith in love.
He had been cheating on his first wife and it broke the marriage (though he won’t admit it). I can’t imagine his behavior will change with the second wife, as their union was not about love, but sex. They are not compatible either, which is not helpful to a new marriage. He was quite compatible with his first wife and the marriage lasted 25-years, until his mistress pressured him into filing for divorce. Now he doesn’t look happy with the second wife and it has only been a couple years.
For a few years before the divorce, I knew about him cheating on his first wife, but didn’t write about it on any of my sites or repeat what I was told regarding the infidelity, despite the fact it would have been a scoop online. I was more disappointed than anything, as for years this man kept stating how he loves his wife and wrote all these songs about her that me and many others bought for years (music CDs).
There’s an athlete who has left his wife for a younger, so-called businesswoman, who is only after him for his money and fame. He is currently separated from his wife. Now his young kids have to deal with daddy not being there in the house anymore and one of them is sick. The athlete posted photos on social networking of his kids and now they look sad. Their dad does not live with them anymore and that’s tough for any kid who is used to both parents living in the same house.
His wife was with him when he had nothing. Now he’s with a money hungry woman who is playing him and for all to see. His fans know, but he doesn’t realize it. He is flaunting on social networking a woman, who unbeknownst to him is a gold digger. His fans who know what happened with his wife, are disappointed, as they know he is married to someone else.
This woman has no shame either to be posing up on social networking with someone else’s husband and showing off the things she bought with his money. She was not entitled to that money or those things. God doesn’t bless mess.
That’s not to say God won’t bless someone in that situation. It simply means He will not bless a marriage or relationship born out of adultery. He clearly states in the Bible that He punishes it Spiritually speaking, it will lead to heartbreak, trouble and suffering in life. Leave other people’s spouses alone. As it is written, “What God has put together, let no man pull apart.”
He should not have left his wife. There is no blessing in that. He is headed for trouble. In fact, he needs to go back to his wife, as the divorce has not been made final. That would be the right thing to do. God can help them reconcile.
I sometimes wonder how men can’t tell when a woman is after them for their money. For example, the woman the athlete is dating, is all of a sudden in charge of his career when she knows nothing about the sport and has no experience, but is controlling his financial interests. Dead giveaway. It’s not beneficial to his career. A qualified professional in the sports industry would make him far more money and provide better career guidance.
Some men cheat in trying to recapture their youth. However, they are not going to get their youth back. No one does and to be a well adjusted person, one must understand the stages of life. At the end of the day, being an adult is about responsibility. When you make a commitment, especially in marriage, you should honor it with fidelity.
If you are in an adulterous relationship I encourage you to stop cheating, ask God for forgiveness and go back to your spouse, if you have not already divorced. The Bible has specific conditions about marriage, divorce and frowns upon the adulterous party remarrying.