What You Post On Twitter, Instagram And Facebook Will Cause People To Judge You Positively Or Negatively

instagramTwitter-logoWhat are you posting on Instagram and Twitter and how is it reflecting on you and your culture. As a blogger, I read many social networking pages by people of all colors and from many nations, to gauge public feedback on topics. There are times when I am impressed by what I read. However, there are also times when I am concerned by items posted online.

I’ve read posts by men cutting down and insulting women in very brutal terms, as a means of belittling and attempting to control. I’ve read posts containing items by men threatening to hit women, thinking it makes them look cool, in conduct that is entirely inappropriate.

However, women do not favor abrasive, arrogant, insulting men. Women also do not favor men bragging about their many sexual conquests online, showing off and trying to prove to certain men that they are masculine. Decent, intelligent men and women reading such items are not impressed.  It only appeals to a small group of individuals, who do not understand women or how off putting such behavior is to people with sense.

Women prefer nice, decent men. It is a major turn off for most women reading items online by a man bragging about all his girlfriends and how promiscuous he is in life. It leads many decent women to write a man off who states such things. Only gold diggers and hookers don’t care about such things, because all they want is money and will scam you to get it.

I’ve seen pages on Twitter and Instagram, where men who show off about their sexual conquests and how stern they are with women, also wonder why good women don’t flock to them and why their cultural background is stereotyped.  Look no further than what you state online.

People need to remember their words online are a reflection of them, their families and culture. People will judge you, your family and culture by your words and deeds, in attempting to ascertain who you are as a person. Going online and playing into every negative stereotype does not help matters. It’s also wise to remember potential employers and the police read social networking as well. Do not put yourself at a financial disadvantage or get yourself into unnecessary trouble. Set a positive example.

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What Messages Are Kids Being Sent About Sex (Video)

Video of 6-year-old girls twerking was widely disseminated on Twitter as people rightly criticized its inappropriate content and what’s becoming of kids in society today

Hollywood and the internet are sending kids some serious and detrimental messages about sex and it is doing damage in their young, impressionable lives.

There are vines and You Tube videos of preteens and teens wearing next to nothing while twerking and gyrating like their favorites stars such as Miley Cyrus and Rihanna.

This is highly inappropriate and sexualizing minors, which can only lead to trouble in young minds not mature enough to process the full implications and responsibilities of sex.

Preteens, such as 8-year-olds are online making very adult and highly sexual statements on social networking about the opposite sex who attend their local schools and it is alarming. It is not good or healthy for a young, developing child’s psyche to be engaging in such thought and speech.

Preteens and underage minors should not be having sex nor talking about it in graphic and profane terms on social networking. It is inviting trouble from sexual predators, such as pedophiles.

Some may call it old fashioned to espouse these views, but when parents end up with an underage pregnancy in their family, 12-year-old girls expecting their own baby, suddenly life becomes very real and scary for the child carrying the child and the child who fathered the child, neither of whom are mentally equipped for parenthood.

Emotional and mental developmental progress should be done in stages, as the body naturally matures during puberty. Puberty should not include parenthood. However, it happens and in those difficult cases, minors should be given all the help and support they need.

Parents need to watch what their kids are getting up to online and protect them from growing up too fast. Parents need to talk to their children about sex and promiscuity.

I often see items on social networking tweeted in response to items that are trending (being written about by many on Twitter) and at times there are explicit and scandalous tweets by minors (8 to 16-year-olds) that warrants concern for the direction society is going in that kids who can’t even vote, drive or drink are stating such highly sexual things (oral sex, anal sex, vagina sex) that should be reserved for adulthood.

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Choices Have Consequences For You And Others (Boston Marathon Bombing)

April 30, 2015


10-year-old Martin Richard died during the Boston marathon due to terrorist bombing

The Boston Bombers, Tamerlan Tsarnaev (deceased) and Dzhokhar Tsarnaev, adversely affected so many lives with their criminal acts of terrorism. Once able bodied people became amputees, while three people died, including 10-year-old boy Martin Richard.

14 people lost limbs due to the terrorist attack. Testimony in the court case broke the hearts of many, as the public heard about and saw the damage inflicted on innocent people.


Martin’s sister 9-year-old Jane Richard became an amputee after losing her left leg below the knee during the Boston marathon bombing. Despite her adversity beautiful Jane is seen smiling.

There are many stories of people, especially teens, unwisely and dangerously leaving their homes in America, Europe, Australia and other nations of the world, to go to the Middle East to join terror outfits ISIS and Al Qaeda.

The terrorist groups online propaganda, replete with movie styled videos, is working as a recruiting agent among some, in what will ultimately destroy the lives of the people who join them.


Dzhokhar Tsarnaev (found guilty and awaiting sentencing) and Tamerlan Tsarnaev (deceased due to being shot by police and run over by his brother fleeing from authorities, dying in a grisly fashion similar to what he inflicted on innocent people)

To the people considering joining these terror groups, I implore you not to do so. Stay with your families. Finish your education. Fall in love and get married. Buy a home and raise your children to be productive members of society.  Do not ruin your life with terrorism. It is a dead end.

I implore people to be mindful of their choices in life. Hurting others is not the answer. Do good in life. Strive to help other people. Let your life’s legacy be a good one that brings positivity to the world and blesses humanity.

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White, Black And Hispanic Prejudices

March 31, 2015


“Prejudice is a burden that confuses the past, threatens the future and renders the present inaccessible” – Maya Angelou

“Prejudice is a great time saver. You can form opinions without having to get the facts” – E.B. White


Prejudice comes in many forms. Some, not all people within races, are prejudiced against other races. There is also another form of prejudice, where people discriminate against others within their own race due to their physical genetic traits.

White vs. White

Some, not all white people, discriminate against dark haired, dark eyed whites within their own race. It is even more ironic when the person discriminating against dark haired, dark eyed white people have those same non-Aryan features.

When you think about it, that’s how Hitler got started. He hatefully and violently demanded a blonde, blue eyed Aryan race of people, decreeing all other features defective, even though he had dark hair and dark eyes. It always amazes me that no one in his government stopped to recognize the hypocrisy and insanity of his actions.

Anglo-Saxon or Aryan whites that are fully European with pale blond hair and blue eyes are not better than whites with olive skin (darker white skin), dark hair and dark eyes.

People look at the outward appearance too much and not what is in a person’s heart, manifested by their deeds, whether good or bad.

Hispanic vs. Hispanic

Some of my Hispanic friends have told me of the prejudices within their race. Darker skinned Hispanics with very curly hair (small curls) are sometimes discriminated against by Hispanics with white skin and straight or wavy hair. These prejudices are regrettable and have caused some Hispanics emotional pain.

Black vs. Black

Some, not all black people, discriminate against blacks who look more African. Due to terrible prejudices engrained in some black people during slavery, where mixed race slaves were allowed to work inside slavemasters’ homes and more African looking slaves who were not mixed race worked in the fields doing hard labor, some ignorant blacks developed prejudices based on hair texture, skin tone and facial features.

There are some blacks who do not date or marry blacks with kinky hair, full African facial features (full lips, thick nose) and dark skin. It is especially ironic and delusional when blacks who discriminate in this manner have kinky hair, dark skin and or full African facial features (thick lips and nose). It is a form of self-hate.

Some blacks marry blacks with curly hair, light skin and or light eyes for the sole objective of seeking to have babies who look mixed race (and it often fails). Anyone who dates, knocks up and or marries another person on such a vain, superficial basis, does not love the person and is engaging in behavior that is an insult to them.

Many of my relatives are mixed race, but the family is still black. I have relatives and ancestors with blue, green, gray eyes and straight, light colored hair, due to race mixing, but at the end of the day, they are not and have not tried to pass for any other race.

At the end of the day, once you have black blood in you this makes you black and there is nothing wrong with that. One should certainly acknowledge and pay tribute to all of the nations and races in one’s lineage, as that is apart of you, but people should not neglect who they are.

By the world’s standards, black is black. Having curly hair, light skin, light eyes, straight hair and or a European nose and lips, does not make you white or better than another black person, who has full African features. It’s plain ignorance to think one is better than another based on one’s appearance.

People who display the aforementioned prejudices are embarrassing themselves, their families and those around them and need to stop. Prejudice is not a good trait. It’s not a good look on anyone of any race. There are good looking people in every race and every shade. If you love someone, race and superficial looks that age and change over time should not matter.

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People Wonder Why Tragedy Struck Whitney Houston And Daughter Bobbi Kristina Brown

February 28, 2015


Whitney Houston and Bobbi Kristina Brown

Legendary singer, Whitney Houston died in 2012 of a drug overdose in a Beverly Hills hotel bathtub, where she drowned. Fast-forward three years and her daughter has overdosed and drowned in a bathtub and is dying on life support.

Some are wondering why these tragic events have happened and how it figures into God’s plan. People often equate being famous with a person somehow being invincible. None of us are invincible. We all have free will in life. We can use that free will to build up our lives or sadly do the opposite.

When people make certain choices, it is the equivalent of taking one’s life into one’s hands. This is why it is important to make positive, productive choices that benefit us and those around us.


God gives us life. What we do with it is our choice, but we must always remember there are boundaries. Our bodies have limits. Therefore, build up the body and the soul with good things. Do it for yourself and those you love.

Make no mistake, God wants you to be sober. He designed the human body. He knows what it can and cannot take. Thanks to science, we’ve learned as well. We must stay within those bounds of sobriety to live the best lives we can.

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Nigeria Needs Help Against Boko Haram

 January 31, 2015


Boko Haram leader Abubakar Shekau

This month it was reported the Al Qaeda linked terrorist group Boko Haram killed 2,000 people in the town of Baga in northeastern Nigeria. Baga residents’ were killed and the town set on fire.

Nigeria is approximately half Christian and half Muslim. Compendius has written about Boko Haram for years and the danger they pose to Christians in Nigeria, who do not submit to their will. For the past few years, Boko Haram has killed thousands of Christians. This month’s attack on Baga has surpassed last year’s entire death count.

Nigeria needs international help to combat the threat from Boko Haram. Innocent people cannot continue to be slaughtered for their beliefs by a merciless terror group. Something must be done to help them.

The African Union has volunteered 7,500 troops to help Nigeria in the fight against Boko Haram. Technology can also make a big difference in military maneuvers against Boko Haram. Humanitarian aid will be needed as well to help the injured and displaced.

Terrorism is on the rise around the world, evidence by the Charlie Hebdo attack in Paris, ISIS kidnappings and murders, as well as numerous suicide bombings in the Middle East.

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Decision Making Can Make Or Break You

December 31, 2014


Good decision making is important in life. It will set the tone for your life. Just so poor decision making can bring trouble to your life. Endeavor to make changes conducive to positive changes in your life. Don’t live recklessly or in a manner that will lead to preventable financial loss and spiritual bankruptcy.

Be careful who you listen to, as not everyone will lead you in the right direction. A good friend will tell you the truth and help put you on the right path to success and happiness. Some people you call friends, really aren’t so, when they are telling you to do dangerous things that can destroy your personal and business relationships.


Friends who encourage you to cheat on your significant other or be promiscuous, do not have your best interests at heart, because it can cost you the one you love or your health to disease, over meaningless risks. Friends who encourage you to get involved in dishonest business dealings, do not have your best interests at heart, as you could end up losing what you have and or imprisoned.

It’s not every idea that pops into your mind or that of your friends that you should try. Temptation comes in many forms and can wreak havoc on your life. Learn self-control and how to think your choices through to obtain the best outcome. Make the best decisions you can to secure your personal happiness and prosperity, as well as that of your family. Remember, choices have consequences.

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Have You Raised A Heartbreaker?

November 30, 2014


Michael Jackson’s famous megahit “Billie Jean” has a true lyric that states “Mama always told me be careful what you do/Don’t go around breaking young girls hearts.” It was good advice.

Are you raising a heartbreaker? Have you raised a heartbreaker and sent him or her out into the world causing others heartache? Parents aren’t always responsible for their children’s behavior, but there should be a conscious effort to teach them to be mindful of others’ feelings.

Some use the term “heartbreaker” as something to brag about, but it’s not. It’s someone who hurts their significant other and or people they recklessly lead on in thinking a relationship is more than what it actually is for them, in order to get what they want – namely sex or money.

Some men encourage their sons to be promiscuous, misleading them into thinking it is a sign of virility and makes them a real man. However, a real man does not behave like a cad. A real man loves one woman, not more than one at a time. A real man doesn’t string women along, tell them what they want to hear to get sex, then leave. Furthermore, being a heartbreaker can destroy your sexual health (sexually transmitted diseases) or cost you the one you love when the person finds out you’ve been cheating.

Some women encourage their daughters to play the field to find the richest man possible. They end up raising daughters, who exploit their bodies for money, becoming modern day harlots and Jezebels. They wreak havoc on themselves and people’s relationships and marriages, chasing money not meant to be their own, under dishonest circumstances. Do not deceive someone into thinking you love them, when you’re after their money. That type of money will do you no good in life.

Do not play with people’s feelings. Do not string people along. Do not give people false hope.  Do not use people for sex. If you are not sincere about the person, don’t start anything with them.

You see it all the time, regarding people developing feelings and become attached, only to discover it was just about sex or money and not love, then they end up heartbroken and devastated for believing a lie.

Encourage your children to find true love. In that is the blessing. Anything less is a travesty.

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Why Do Some Women Pretend To Be Virgins

November 1, 2o14


Kemal seducing virginal Lady Mary

Why do some women pretend to be virgins to the men they date when they are not anymore. I recently saw an episode of the British drama “Downton Abbey.” Lady Mary, a virgin, was seduced by a visiting foreign dignitary, Kemal.

Kemal took a liking to Lady Mary when they met, while staying at her family’s stately manor home in the beautiful English countryside. As she was getting ready for bed one night, handsome Kemal secretly knocked on her bedroom door and basically began begging her for sex.

Kemal and virginal Lady Mary

The pure and chaste Lady Mary, not used to such temptation, was overwhelmed as he tried to convince her that she could let him take her virginity and he would lie for her so she could “be a virgin for (her) your future husband.” Lady Mary fell for it, succumb to temptation and Kemal has his way with her…and a heart attack has its way with him right after he had sex with her. Lady Mary must have been an exceptional virgin to give a man a heart attack on her first try of having sex (LOL).


Death by virgin. Kemal walked in the room, but got carried out, after taking Lady Mary’s virginity and having a fatal heart attack in her bed

Man or woman, if you are saving yourself for marriage, that’s a great thing. It‘s your personal choice. Let no one make you feel bad or guilty about that or con you into doing otherwise. If someone loves you, they’ll wait for you. If someone doesn’t like the fact you are saving yourself for marriage, that’s their problem. They don’t need to be around you.

However, if you’re not a virgin, you really shouldn’t pretend to be one to the person you are dating or marrying. Don’t deceive someone like that and let them think they’re sharing that special moment with you if they’re not actually the first. Honesty is the best policy.

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Character Is Important In Love And Relationships

October 31, 2014


It is important to have character, not only in business relationships, but personal ones as well. Character says you are honest with people and treat the one you are dating or married to with dignity and respect. It means faithfulness and fidelity.

Character is not cheating on the one you are dating or married to, as that is wrong. Character is not juggling different lovers. Sex is special. It shouldn’t be reduced to a crass and meaningless act solely for physical gratification. There’s nothing truly blessed about living in that manner, so change your ways for the betterment of your own life. Promiscuity and cheating opens people up to sexual hang-ups,  sexually transmitted diseases, dysfunction, depressioon and personal disasters. Sex is supposed to be about love, not a meaningless physical act.


You will never find a decent and loyal person living in that manner. You will attract gold diggers and tramps, who will use you for all they can get and when you are no longer able to give them the financial resources or public attention they seek, they will abandon you.

When you take people for granted in this manner, using them for sex, it brings bad things into your life. Some call it reaping and sowing – others call it karma.  At the end of the day, be honest and faithful to one person, lest living in a promiscuous manner cost you the right person and a lifetime of regret.

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