March 17, 2014
Being what is known as a “celebrity blogger” as well as a musician, you read, hear and often witness inside items regarding relationships of stars. Some celebrities are of the faith, but let lust overrule their hearts in choosing the right mate. There’s a difference between love and lust. Love gives, lust takes.
I read the story of a musician who years prior had met the lovely woman he would later marry, but he overlooked her in favor of wild women who had a certain look, who didn’t care about him, just wanted his money and fame and ended up breaking his heart. Those women took and took from him and when things went wrong with his career, abandoned him.
He was distracted and lost focus with the wrong type of women that the industry told him he should be with, for a guy of his stature and it cost him so much. However, God knew all along what was best for him and he met the aforementioned lovely lady again, they began dating, got married and have kids. He needed her in his corner. She understands him and his life and was able to help him rebuild his career.
Then there’s the story of an unmarried athlete, who fell in lust with a superficial woman based on her looks. The good looking athlete who grew up poor, has self-esteem issues and he never thought he’d be able to get a woman who looks like that. Being new to fame, he began dating her for a couple years, while she tried her level best to drag him down the aisle in marriage, determine to get at his modest, but burgeoning bank account.
The whole time she was calculating how much money he was beginning to earn and would earn and how much of it she could get, though he was not a millionaire. However, his career hit a snag and he didn’t become the wealthy man she thought he would and she dropped him. He was stunned and devastated.
He had believed her lies. However, the signs were there all along that she was a materialistic woman leeching off his fame and growing bank account. Her social networking pages were all about material things she wanted, but he didn’t realize she was viewing him as her meal ticket.
She used his name to get free things and into events. She cockily posed with him in photos she posted to her social networking pages in a way that didn’t indicate love via body language, but more “look at me.” She was feeding off his fame. When a woman is truly in love her body language is different.
When they broke up temporarily, she had sex with different men behind his back. He only resumed the relationship because other men began pursuing her and he thought he couldn’t find any better, but anyone can do better than a gold digger waiting in the wings to take everything. While he was away working, she also cheated on him.
However, when his career hit the skids, she abandoned him, in search of someone rich. He saw her true colors, but not before it cost him a woman he had actually cared about who wasn’t the glamorous type, but is pretty. She went off with someone else and it broke his heart. His mother never truly took to her, sensing that one day she would hurt her son and she sure did.
The moral of the story is to choose from the heart. Looks fade. Inner beauty and true love never does. Be careful you don’t lose the one who is best for you, over pursuing the one who looks best to you.