Relationships can be tricky. People will see blaring red flags indicating something is wrong, but trudge along a path of disaster, having convinced themselves they cannot do without the person. However, the fact of the matter is, no one is irreplaceable in a relationship. You can get over anyone, especially someone who is not right for you.
If you are married, pray for God’s help with your marriage problems and try to work things out. Marriage is a commitment and sadly sometimes due to infidelity, people end up very heartbroken and devastated. Couples have worked through infidelity and other problems. Therefore, it can be done.
However, if you are single and seeing red flags regarding a relationship, it’s time for you to take a step back and evaluate exactly what you’ve gotten into and how you can get yourself out of it, before it wreaks anymore damage on your life. Some relationships aren’t meant to be.
Some of you are completely stuck on looks, with the attitude, where am I going to find someone better looking. There’s more to a relationship than looks. If that’s your sole reason for dating someone, you are headed for trouble (looks fade).
Don’t be superficial. Sometimes the prettiest packages hide the coldest and most evil hearts. Yes, you should date someone you find attractive, but having that as your sole basis is dangerous. Find someone you deem attractive, who also has a good heart.
You have to watch a person’s speech and behavior. If all they talk about is money, what they want or what they want you to get them, that’s not healthy and a sign of bad things to come. If they exhibit terrible tempter tantrums, especially when they don’t get their way, that’s someone you’re going to be doing a proverbial balancing act around, walking on egg shells, miserable and afraid you are going to get on their bad side.
There are some women who will cling to men over money they have or they think they will earn, knowing full well they don’t love them and stick around until the money is gone, then leave. Some women use men, but God sees, hears and knows all, including the intentions of a person’s heart. There’s a price to pay in life for using people in that manner, duping them into thinking you love them, whereas someone else would have genuinely loved them if you were not digging your heels in seeking to take all you can get from them.
Relationships are to be based on love not money. Anything less is a travesty and mockery of love. You reap what you sow in life. If you are dating someone or are engaged, make sure it’s real and for the right reason, which is love. Money should never be a motive for marriage.
I’ve turned down men of means for the simple reason I was not in love. Some men you view as acquaintances or friends whose accomplishments you’re proud of, but you know in your heart it is friendship and not love and you leave it at that. Women and men all deserve someone who truly loves them and vice versa.
If the man you love is not rich, you need to realize that’s his financial state and the two of you should try to make it together. Money is not everything. It pays the bills but does not bring happiness.