Marriage is an important step in a person’s life. It’s a big milestone that is a blessing. One should always choose one’s mate wisely, especially where becoming parents is concerned. We’ve all made mistakes in life. The key is to recognize our mistakes, learn from them and not repeat or pass them on to the next generation.
When you choose a mate, who will become the person you bring children into this world with, make sure they are of good character. Genetics is strong. I’ve read legal cases regarding parents and children, who did not know each other, after being separated via foster care or adoption, yet went on to commit the same crimes their parent did (including robbery, assault and or murder). The new guardians did not know the history of the adopted children’s parents in each case and which warning signs to watch for and work against to break the cycle, then genetics took over.
On a lesser level, men want beautiful, virtuous daughters, yet impregnate women who are unrepentant nude models that have sex with many men (and women) some even engaging in prostitution and escorting on the side for money. Genetics coupled with the bad example that has been set and reinforced as the way to get ahead in life, will have a major impact. Then, when their daughters become promiscuous at a young age, even selling their bodies for money and drugs, some also posing nude as their mothers did, their dads are heartbroken and devastated to the point of tears. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
Women lust after promiscuous bad boys, who are disrespectful and constantly in trouble. Due to the fact you’re really young, you think he’s a hot rebel. Then you have kids with him and your sons knock up young, underage girls and get into other forms of trouble in their teens, giving you grief, embarrassment and heartache. Once again, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
As much as one parent may set a great example, sometimes the other parent setting a bad one is the one that gets through and destroys the child’s life via following bad, unethical advice. You have one parent telling the child to be good and not steal, then you have one telling him take whatever you want in life and play people. Then they end up in prison for robbery, theft or worse.
There are women who train their daughters to seek out and sex rich men for an allegedly easy life, rather than teaching them to get an education and use their minds to work hard for what they want in life.
There are men who train their sons to be violent as an alleged symbol of manhood. Then when they kill someone and end up in prison, hearts are broken and many tears shed.
There are men who set a bad examples for their sons, by cheating on their mothers right in their offspring’s presence. They flirt with and try to date other women right before their kids’ eyes. It becomes a negative template for their children’s future behavior. There are men who tell their sons they should have sex with many women as a sign of virility and manhood, then when their sons catch serious, life altering sexually transmitted diseases and pass them on to others, they are heartbroken.
Just so that same bad advice from dads lead sons to cheat on their wives and wreck their lives and those of others. Broken families result, with kids growing up with issues and complexes from said marriage and relationship troubles of their parents.
There is too much emphasis on instant gratification in society, causing impressionable people to look for shortcuts and end up in serious trouble. What you think is a shortcut now, often leads to a dead end. Be careful of your choices, as they have consequences.
If you plan on bringing children into this world, don’t think who their parents are won’t affect them. Make sure you choose wisely. Make sure you set a good example.
Do not choose someone who will set examples so bad your child will be at a moral, educational and spiritual disadvantage. Do not choose someone who will insult and belittle your child, making them feel worthless and not capable of doing well.
Do not choose someone who will teach your daughters to think using their bodies to get what they want is okay. Do not choose someone with a lax attitude towards adultery and or using men to get ahead, because when those sins pass on to a second generation they become worse (and so on and so on).
No one on this earth is perfect, but choose someone you are attracted to, in love with, who has a strong sense of right and wrong. Someone who will instill the proper principles in your future offspring, such as the virtues of decency, hard work, loyalty, faith and striving for excellence. Someone who will instill the best in your future children and teach them from they are young and even as they grow older, that they are special, loved, wanted and a winner. Someone who will teach them they are capable of greatness and hold the ability to do well in this world.
At the end of the day, looks aren’t everything and most of all they fade. Character lasts a lifetime. Choose wisely.